My DH will be grandpa for the first time soon. I was never able to have kids so this is a first new experience for me. I'm apprehensive at best. I would've loved kids but find it very emotional being around the pg'cy stuff and all the hoopla of having a baby. It just hurts too much so I will not be attending the shower.

Anyway, are there any step-grandparenting issues that I need to know about?

Di, If your DH's kids do not have any issues with you and you treat the child as if it were your own g'child, then there shouldn't be any issues. I'm not the step-g'ma, but my g'son has 4 step-g'parents. I don't believe he knows who is step and who is not because no one makes an issue of it. He calls all of us the same name with our dogs' names attached. I'm Mamaw Daisy.

Obviously I do have 1 child, however I would've wanted at least one more and I didn't get the baby stuff out of my system. Spending time with my grandson has allowed me to be a grand-mom occasionally.

I think if you embrace this child you will be rewarded with so much love - it will make you very happy. I started asking if Clayton could spend the night with me when he was just a couple of months old and ever since he's spent 1 night every other weekend. Believe me, when it's time for him to go home, I'm worn out and ready to send him on his way. Our time together has allowed me to develop a very special relationship with him (he's 3 now) and given my son and wife some time away. Some people would feel used by our arrangement, but I don't, I feel honored.

This could be your chance to experience some of the joys of motherhood and watch a child grow up. It would enrich your life and your g'child's.

Daisygirl

Thank you, DG. I think the hardest time is seeing my DSD pregnant and getting prepared for the "arrival". I so wanted that for myself. But DH is good a including me and WANTING me to be called Grandma. After all, "legally",I will be!