I think it could be a pattern. My sister said something about me during a phone conversation once..."Yes, Dianne finally found a man who will put up with her." I just blew! Trust me, she won't say it again...not in front of me anyway.

You know what, who cares if they blame you for this horrible man's death. Who cares if they believe you? Have you read Marilyn Van Derber's book? She goes into great detail about this. Two of her sisters wanted to keep the dirty secret from the public and the rest of the family. Only one of her sisters admitted to being raped by their father too.

And, in your house you can do what you want. I think we earned that right!