I've not lost a spouse to death, but I have lost two due to divorce. Like most single folks I know, I never planned to be single at this stage of my life. It is what it is, and for the most part I am content and have learned to deal with the loneliness that creeps in from time to time.

It is an odd spot to be in. I have no children, so any care I need in my old age I have to plan for now.

Financially it is odd too. I have always been more financially secure than the men I've been in relationships with. My SO is my beneficiary, but his daughter is his (as it should be). Since most people do have children, I will never be able to count on financial assistance from anyone else.

Orchid is so right that taking care of our health is of utmost importance. My 87 year old aunt is currently in an assisted living facility, and she cannot do much for herself. She has never taken care of her health. There are others in her facility who have a much better quality of life.