Hi Wolejold- Praises to you for having the courage to leave a destructive situation. It can only get better from now on. FYI- I found ALANON to be very helpful and supportive in the past. They really understand your situation, but refrain from giving advice, only offerring support and understanding. It can't hurt to check out a meeting if you are so inclined. Blessings to you in your "new life"