A big thank you to all of you who have responded to my sad story.
I had a wonderful three day weekend at the beach with some Red Hatter friend's of mine. It was the first time I've been able to get out and travel a short distance and spend the nite in at least five years! What a wonderful time.
Dotsie.......I do have an Attorney, and she is wonderful. She is called a Holistic Attorney. She not only works to get you the divorce, she works with you and your feelings as you go thru the divorce procedures.
I've only seen her once because I haven't made up my mind if I want to get a divorce, but I was very impressed with her.
I also retained a Financial Advisor who has been working with me for the past two months.
I have decided to wait until the first of the year to have a talk with my husband to see if he wants to continue to be married, but live separate lives, and work with each other on when it comes to money matters. I honestly don't believe he will want to divorce because it would cause such a problem with "his" property. But......I do plan on getting involved in many, many things, now that my health is getting better and I can get out of the house.
I'm doing Pilates again, and hope to get back to Body Pumping. That will help me lose more weight, and keep me in shape. I just want to feel good in my "old age." If I have anything to do with it, I won't ever get old. Maybe in years, but not in spirit. Bless you all, and thank you again for your support. Will check in every once in a while.
Lynne

LSmith5434, So how are you doing? Have you made any decisions yet? Is the husband behaving differently regarding your new found freedom? Was thnking about this the other night while watching a movie with a similar story line. Too bad life is not like the movies where everything always works out.

Chatty Lady...
Thanks so much for your interest.
I'm doing very well right now.
Yes.....the husband is behaving very well right now, but I know it won't last for long.
But one thing I'm not doing this time, and that's waiting for the "hammer to drop."
He isn't going to get at me like he used to.
I'm just to confindent in myself right now, and I think that shows.
If our lives were like the movies, boy would this be a boring world!!!
I'm doing fine right now, and hope to be doing the same in the months to come.
I do plan on presenting the husband with my plans for our marriage after the first of the year. Then I will really know what's going to happen.
Lynne

Did anyone besides me see Dr. Phil today?
MY GOD!!!! I cried so hard for those women, and myself. Pam was my story too.....so scary! It was called "The First Wives Club." What a powerful show. I don't usually watch Dr. Phil, but just happened to start watching it. Maybe it was meant to be? Anyone else out there get from it what I did? So powerful!!!!
Lynne

I saw some of the show and it was something else . I did not watch all of it . I wanted to see what Martha Stewart was cooking up. Made me cry .

I saw most of it. The women seemed unable to move forward. They were stuck in the victim mode. What a sad way to live your life. How did it end?

Wow, unfortunately I'm unable to watch the show due to work, yet I'm posting the site if any of gals want to read about it!

http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/620

Well........I started my saga here, so will press on.
Today was my 41st anniversary.
How did I celebrate 41 years of marriage to a man who never loved me?
Kept myself very busy.
Went to the gym, went into my daughter's office and helped her with her stuff.
Went to visit a friend who lost her husband in May. Tried to help her cope with her first holidays without him. They were so much in love.
Went shopping, and then waited for my husband to come home from work so he could take my mother and I out to dinner. It's my mother's 85th BD tomorrow, or today to some of you.
No cards were exchanged, no hugs, no kisses, nothing.
Do I sound harsh........you betcha' I do!
I'm so friggin' sad about the whole thing, that it just plain hurts.
But......it's another day tomorrow, and life goes on.
Thanks for reading.
Lynne

That sucks. Did he ever take you out to dinner? Did her forget it was your anniversary or just ignore it?

Yes.......we went to dinner, and he informed me that he didn't get me a card.
Told him I didn't get him one either.
Oh well.........
Lynne