Maybe you could ask him what it is he's looking for or what he expects from a relationship.
Just be honest, it is always the best way to go.

Mustang, I caused this man some grief by not returning his phone call and appearing to be uninterested. Two weeks ago I got angry at him inappropriately and it was very upsetting to him. I think he needs to know I care and that I am doing everything I can to grow past my limitations. My counselor believes I need to let him know that much.

Bluebird, One thing I know is that he would expect his friends to return his phonecalls. I will ask him that question - that's an important one.

Let me tell you, this will be very hard, because my normal MO would be to well.....move on and not deal with it. One thing - I cannot pretend to be happy and carefree when I'm not. He sees right through me and sometimes surprises me by what he knows without me saying a word about it.

I appreciate you ladies so much. This has been a very difficult time and knowing you care means a lot.

Daisygirl

Daisygirl, thanks for clarifying -- I did not read the thread in its entirety! Perhaps you could explain and then offer to take him to dinner or a movie or both?

Mustang, I think I'm going to make a grilled chicken salad for dinner and hopefully he will stay.

Here's a link to a great article re love from the cloudtownsend site in case anyone would like to read it. There are other topics like family, dating, depression, and faith issues. They are a well-known Christian counseling organization and have a radio program. Their books and philosophy is all Bible based.

http://www.cloudtownsend.com/Articles/7articles8.htm
Daisygirl

[ June 14, 2006, 05:56 PM: Message edited by: Daisygirl ]

Update: I did talk to him and I am okay with the results. He was not very open with me, but I can't blame him for that, I would be leary also. We "like" each other and will continue to date and if that doesn't work out, we will be friends.

Daisygirl

Baby steps sweet Daisygirl, baby steps!!!

[ June 15, 2006, 03:59 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Daisygirl....one can never have too many friends.

The one man I love with all my heart is also my friend. He was my friend first, then he became my best friend, and now he owns my heart. Not because he claimed it, but because he earned it.

Hugs, JJ

The thing is, I feel so much better. After a bad relationship years ago, I became distant from God. This relationship with P caused me to look at how self-centered I've been always protecting myself. I know God forgives me and I am praying I will have a chance to ask others from my past to forgive me.

I found a box of letters I received through the years from friends and acquaintances (sp?) appreciating my friendship and the love they received from me. But they were all from years ago, because I became a closed up person, with walls all around me. I haven't received any letters or cards like that in years. I really want to go back to being me. With God's help, it can happen!

Daisygirl

[ June 15, 2006, 12:09 AM: Message edited by: Daisygirl ]

You can and actually you have already started because we all love you and send you our feelings if not in cards, in words right here through he forum.

[ June 15, 2006, 04:03 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Thank you Chatty! Today I do feel loved - and it's so nice.

JJ, I'm very glad you have someone like that in your life.

I've been single a long time and now realize I have probably been repelling the good guys away. Although, you know there are very few good ones out there at our age.