This is easy. Become involved. Don't sit back and let life pass you by. Concentrate on your own interests and lo and behold that man you would want to spend the rest of your life with would be right around the corner. That's the way the soul mate experience works, so I figure that's the same with any experience.

Anne, Events and Adventures sounds like the way to go. We have a local service that sets up several couples for dinner at one time. A friend of mine does that arranging. I think that's much easier than having to do all this alone..

I too feel it is always easier in a group setting to get to know someone, just watchng their inner action with others helps. But then everyone that met my ex thought he was soooo wonderful and soooo funny. Yep and he was unless you were the sap that married all his fake traits. In tne world we live in today with porn and all he other junk a man has at his disposal I do not think it is poossible to meet a good man. I did in the 50's and again in the 60's (both died) but now the men are just so different, either snealky and sleezy, too darn needy or just plain deceptive. They all think their gigglos....

You've heard me whine about the guy I reconnected with (at the grocery) a few weeks ago. Well, we finally met last week and he really does seem like a genuinely decent guy. I think we will see each other again, but this is going to be slow - but I'm okay with it. The last guy I dated started asking me to do things for him after a month that just were not appropriate, like participate in the basketball team he coached. That's something a wife does not a new girlfriend. He wanted to push, control and plan my life for me.

I've met guys in the park, walking my dog, the bike path, parties, a bar, church, Bible study group and a date auction and I learned that you should be careful no matter where you meet them. You should never give your heart to someone until you know them very well and have met some of their friends and family.

Has anyone ever done the 1 date per 5 minutes deal?

Daisygirl

I'm glad you gave the guy a chance. There are good men out there.

I met a lot of them when I was single and I married the best one of all. If this guy is not THE one for you, at least you will know.

And it's nice to be asked. Enjoy.

smile

When I was single I always saw interesting men in book stores. That way you knew they at least knew how to read!

and cared about reading. That says something. Good point!

Anne, stud, dud...I like that comment!

Now that I'm going to be single after 41 years of marriage, I don't think I will jump into the "dating arena" right away. Probably never!!
Yuk!!!!
Lynne

Great artricle in this months AARP magazine on Sex and being single...

Sex........what's that??
Not in my vocabulary for many years!
Oh well....
Lynne