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#52641 - 06/20/06 01:21 AM Lost the baby
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	My daughter found out today at her doctor appointment that she lost the baby. She's devastated. It's a sad day around our house.
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#52642 - 06/20/06 01:34 AM Re: Lost the baby
Bluebird Member Registered: 09/20/05 Posts: 2560 Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado	I'm so sorry, Vicki. How far along was she? ((HUGS))
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#52643 - 06/20/06 01:35 AM Re: Lost the baby
Dancing Dolphin Member Registered: 03/06/06 Posts: 2529 Loc: Southern California	How far along was she Vicki? I've been there as well; wasn't very far along, but nonetheless you have so many images building in your mind of what the baby will be, how it will look - you just love that little clump of cells as if it were laying in your arms already, smiling up at you. Our prayers are with you. There's not a lot to say in this situation. I know it bothered me when so many people said "Oh, you can try again!" I didn't want to hear that, I wanted MY baby that I had just lost! Just give her lots of hugs, Vicki. Kathy
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#52644 - 06/20/06 01:43 AM Re: Lost the baby
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	Vicki, I'm so, so sorry. Lean on the Lord for strength during this time, and He will comfort you. My love to you and your family, JJ
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#52645 - 06/20/06 02:10 AM Re: Lost the baby
chickadee Member Registered: 09/26/04 Posts: 3910 Loc: Alabama	Vicki, I am so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say. Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you. Luv, chick
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#52646 - 06/20/06 02:16 AM Re: Lost the baby
chatty lady Writer Registered: 02/24/04 Posts: 20267 Loc: Nevada	Oh my Vicki how sad for everyone. I will pray that you all get through this okay.
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#52647 - 06/20/06 02:22 AM Re: Lost the baby
Val Member Registered: 06/12/05 Posts: 110 Loc: Pa.	Vicki, I am so sad for your loss. I will be praying for you & yours. Val
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#52648 - 06/20/06 02:27 AM Re: Lost the baby
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	She was about 9 or 10 weeks along. She hasn't passed the fetus, so the doctors are suggesting she go to the hospital for a procedure. Something like a D&C. She's kinda scared. She had so many plans and was really looking forward to having this baby. I know she has to grieve for awhile and let the loss settle around her. She's a strong girl. I hope she has the strength to get through this.
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#52649 - 06/20/06 02:46 AM Re: Lost the baby
Dianne Queen of Shoes Registered: 05/24/04 Posts: 6123 Loc: Arizona	OH NO! I'm so, so sorry.
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#52650 - 06/20/06 03:06 AM Re: Lost the baby
Dancing Dolphin Member Registered: 03/06/06 Posts: 2529 Loc: Southern California	Vicki, she will be fine. That's about how far along I was, and I also had to have the procedure. It's pretty quick and painless (physically), but it's very wearing emotionally. And tell her to ignore any negative comments from the hospital employees - some can be so insensitive because they see this happen over and over. Once that's done, she can go home and rest for a bit. Again, lots of love and hugs. She'll be okay. Kathy
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#52651 - 06/20/06 03:17 AM Re: Lost the baby
Bluebird Member Registered: 09/20/05 Posts: 2560 Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado	I've had it done twice and they put you out. It takes about 20 minutes. Physically, I'm sure she'll be just fine. Emotionally, she will need lots of support and people to just listen. It is a loss like any other loss, but even more intimate for some women. Tell her we are all praying for her and lifting her up to the Lord.
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#52652 - 06/20/06 03:34 AM Re: Lost the baby
lionspaaw Member Registered: 11/28/02 Posts: 887 Loc: SW Florida	Vicki - Of course I feel soooo bad for your daughter and her husband but I'm very sad for you too --- as the expectant Grandma -- you must be just devistated -- and yet -- you're thoughts are with your daughter -- not wanting to feel like you're being selfish by hurting for YOUR loss -- so you're keeping your "outward" thoughts on your daughter's loss ---- but I just wanted to address the fact that YOU are hurting too and give you a (((((( HUGE HUG ))))))
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#52653 - 06/20/06 03:47 AM Re: Lost the baby
Bluebird Member Registered: 09/20/05 Posts: 2560 Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado	So true, lion, and forgive me Vicki for not addressing that, too.
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#52654 - 06/20/06 03:56 AM Re: Lost the baby
Di Member Registered: 11/15/05 Posts: 2798 Loc: NM, transplant from NJ	Vicki, I'm so sorry. I cannot relate in that I'm not a mother nor have I ever been pg., but when my DH's daughter had her m/c (at 11 weeks), I strongly encouraged DH to treat it as a death. WE sent them a sympathy card, flowers etc. We NEVER said to them, "you can try again", or any other non-sympathetic comments. As you know, and sad to say, some couples never conceive again. This is a death...the death of a dream and hope. Again, I'm so, so sorry for all of you. (((HUG)))
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#52655 - 06/20/06 04:55 AM Re: Lost the baby
Pam R. Member Registered: 03/10/06 Posts: 404	Vicki, I am so sorry for all of you. I know how you wanted this baby as well. Please relate to your daughter that many prayers around the world are being said for her and your whole family.
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#52656 - 06/20/06 06:08 AM Re: Lost the baby
Louisa Member Registered: 07/11/04 Posts: 2132 Loc: MA	Vicki, I am so sorry to hear that. I know how devasted you all are. My daughter lost her baby about 6 months ago. Louisa
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#52657 - 06/20/06 06:14 PM Re: Lost the baby
Songbird Member Registered: 06/03/04 Posts: 2830 Loc: Massachusetts, USA	Vicki: We're with you, in your pain. A loss is a loss! And nothing replaces it! Please know that we will keep you covered with prayers for you, your daughter, and the whole family, as you all deal with this sad event. The Dilation & Curettage is a common procedure, but still, the emotional toll is bigger for some than others. But know that God cares and sees every single tear. He weeps with you, but brings comfort to each and every saddened heart. "He is not pleased with the death of anyone who dies..."-Ezekiel 18:32. May His presence be, in your family's life, the rainbow of better days to come and the assurance of His unfailing love for each of you! Feel His embrace and rest!
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#52658 - 06/20/06 06:47 PM Re: Lost the baby
AvalonBlondi Member Registered: 11/07/05 Posts: 1096 Loc: West Chester ,PA	Vicki...so sorry to hear about your daughter's loss...I am praying for both of you this morning..
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#52659 - 06/21/06 01:08 AM Re: Lost the baby
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	Thank you to everyone for your comforting words and prayers. I really appreciate them. We are all going through our own personal loss, but in my heart, my daughter comes first. I want to help her get through this. She's afraid that she'll slip into a depression because of this, so we all must watch her carefully.
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#52660 - 06/21/06 07:09 AM Re: Lost the baby
diamond50 Member Registered: 01/10/06 Posts: 992 Loc: Honolulu, Hawaii	Vicki, my heart goes out to your daughter and the rest of your family. ((((((Hugs)))))))) Cindy
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#52661 - 06/21/06 07:14 AM Re: Lost the baby
Casey Member Registered: 11/18/05 Posts: 789 Loc: Aptos, California	Hugs and prayers to you and your family, Vicki. Casey
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#52662 - 06/21/06 04:24 PM Re: Lost the baby
smilinize Member Registered: 11/08/03 Posts: 3512 Loc: outer space	I'm so sorry Vicki. I pray your family will all somehow find peace. smile
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#52663 - 06/23/06 07:41 AM Re: Lost the baby
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	Thank you everyone. My daughter is having her D&C this morning at the hospital. Hopefully, she'll be able to go home later today.
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#52664 - 06/22/06 09:49 PM Re: Lost the baby
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	We're there with you all Vicki. God loves you, and so do we! JJ
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#52665 - 06/22/06 10:48 PM Re: Lost the baby
chickadee Member Registered: 09/26/04 Posts: 3910 Loc: Alabama	Yes Vicki, we are here and so is He. luv chick
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#52666 - 06/22/06 11:01 PM Re: Lost the baby
smilinize Member Registered: 11/08/03 Posts: 3512 Loc: outer space	Vicki, I hope you can take comfort in knowing you and your daughter are surrounded by prayer. Give yourself and your daughter some time to grieve. We'll be here to listen. smile
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#52667 - 07/06/06 10:43 PM Re: Lost the baby [Re: smilinize]
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	Vicki, how are you and your family doing now that a little bit of time has passed? I am still heart sick for you. _________________________ Founder Emeritus of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women. www.nabbw.com www.boomerwomenspeak.com
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