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#189259 - 09/02/09 05:26 PM
A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
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BWS has been my second home for so long, I don't even know where else to go when something like this wants to be shared. Well, there IS no place else to go. And it's too painful not to share.
I recently reconnected with a former co-worker of my brother Gary. She told me that even now, 2+ years after he died, they have not touched his workspace...nobody has ever had the heart to move anything, and because of downsizing, they haven't needed the space, so they haven't moved anyone into that office. Apparently, everytime anyone walks by his office, they salute it/him.
This so made me cry. I'm not the only one who still misses him, and clearly not the only one who thinks he died way too soon.
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#189272 - 09/02/09 07:50 PM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
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I understand Eagle and realise how many areas one life touches.Workplace collegues are important and this story warms my heart How are you these days ?
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#189286 - 09/02/09 11:47 PM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
[Re: Mountain Ash]
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Thanks MA...her comment deeply affected me. I've been leaking all over the place.
How am I? Seeing more light than dark, feeling more positive than negative, and further along the road to creative and peaceful coexistence with the new realities. JJ's story about her Mom has been a major inspiration for me...early mornings are the worst time for me, but as soon as I begin to feel the sadness and despair, I leap out of bed, open the window and breathe in the new morning. I'm not quite at the point of shouting "good morning world" out loud (have to adhere to the bylaws here, you know), but I do stretch out my arms and greet God with gratitude for another beautiful day. That's a long way from where I was a year ago.
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#189291 - 09/03/09 02:09 AM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
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Thank you, Yonuh. He was deeply loved and still missed. We've also been discovering that many people have been having some very funny "Gary-moments". One of the qualities people loved most about him was his humour and ability to make people howl with delight and laughter. He appears to still enjoy doing so.
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#189402 - 09/05/09 02:10 AM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
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Thank you Chatty. There's hardly a day that goes by that I don't wonder the "why" of it. Somewhere along the way I gave up trying to figure it all out and decided to trust that Someone somewhere has it all in hand. It's either that or succumb to bitterness. I just have to believe that there's more going on than we can see, a bigger picture, and someday we'll know the why of it all and it will make sense.
Your kindness will always be a candle in my heart, bringing warmth and comfort everytime I think of your kindness to us during that time.
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#189467 - 09/06/09 11:05 PM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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Eagle, What an awesome tribute to your brother, Eagle. Wow! 2 years and they haven't let anyone else have his office! Again, I say, awesome!
How wonderful the memories of your brother must be. Someday we'll all know the why of it, I guess. I have said, "Why, God, why?" Much and often, these last four years. But like you I don't want to be bitter. So I choose to believe, He's all knowing. And someday we'll have the answers. Blessings and prayers,
Edited by jabber (07/30/10 03:18 PM)
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#189483 - 09/07/09 11:46 AM
Re: A Heartwarming Story about my Brother
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Eagle I read a book this week a novel from my library by Douglas Kennedy.In it he writes as a Mother whose little girl is run over...her subsequent grief..it is so well written I wept. the woman is mad with grief...flees..attemps suicide and the story of her recovery is suberbly woven by Kennedy. I thought about you when it said that the loss had to be "accomodated" and that is subject for a thesis.
Its a hard thing that happened loosing Gary.You shared and we cared.Thank you for sharing and I remain on your shoulder whispering that you find peace..
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