OK, the dreaded “V” day is once again on the horizon.

I told you all about the out-of-state guy I’m “seeing” now. We’ve only spent four weekends together so far, and talk often.

Anyway, I want to get him something for Valentine’s Day, but it has to be a generic/non-romantic type gift. I suppose I just want to acknowledge the day without overdoing anything because he doesn’t seem to be the romantic type.

Any suggestions?

Whirlwind

How about buying tickets to a movie?

Edelweiss, I probably won't get to see him again until mid to late February, depending on what his work schedule is. So I'd like for the gift to be something I could mail, that he could enjoy without me being there.

This is a hazard/problem with long distance stuff, especially when in the "getting to know someone" stage. If he was local, buying tickets to an event would be no problem, that is a fantastic idea.

Thanks for the thought...

Whirlwind

Would a simple funny card be enough? Hallmark has these fun cards that make music and small movements. They are a bit more special that a simple card, but not a big gift.

For easily shipped gifts, remember that many online stores will ship anything direct. A book on his favorite topic from amazon.com. Flowers - men seldom receive flowers and there are many man friendly type of flowers. Or a plant that he could keep. I always find a peace plant (prayer plant?) a good choice.

How is it going, anyway? Are you two finding yourself compatible? Are you enjoying the long distance relationship?

Maybe a card "would" be enough. Or a card and some sort of gift certificate.

I know he likes me, that is obvious. But not being around each other much makes this sort of thing hard. And I truly don't know if he will do anything for me for the occasion, maybe he isn't at that point yet. But I don't want to ignore it, in case he "does" send a card or something.

So to answer your question Anno, it's going well, when we're together we are very compatible, and we talk often between visits. I do admit though, it would be nice to be dating someone local, so a mid-week dinner or a regular Saturday night date would be possible. This once every six weeks or longer thing is going to get old.

Whirlwind

I would just send a fun card, and as Anno said, many of them have fun music now as well. If you can find one that plays a song he can relate to, that would be great.

For such a short time knowing him, I don't think you should put in a gift certificate. He may not do anything for you, and then he'll feel really bad. A card is a good gesture without pushing the line too far.

K

OK, a card it is. Thanks ladies, it's always good to get opinions and affirmations from you all!

Whirlwind

I'm in agreement with a fun, musical card. That's perfect.

That makes three because just a musical cutsie card is plenty in this situation...I always loved Valentines Day maybe even more than Birthdays or Christmas. Mine were always so special and romantic and I am always sullen and cranky on that day now. I stay home so as not to have to see lovers out and about all lovey-dovey and happy together. Is that being selfish do you think?

no not selfish as your ensurring that your sorrow dose't impinge upon any one else, in fact its quite the opposite of selfish.

i am sorted for valentines big time as L (my son) got me a lovelie card and a wee gift and i for him and his favorite little girle (we post it) frend as iv told him its a day weer we tell people we either love or care for them. (i may have paid for it but lol)

i got for him a ballon shapped like a love hart for all of 99p (he asked for it) he was carrying back from shop we got cards and ballon in we stopped in a jewlares (as its soon his birthday) and the shop assistant asked what its for and he told her "its becouse I love my mum". got him away with bad behaviour for about 10 minetds lol.

i am putting him into tranning earlie lol

I bought "A" and her parents, my mother, Hubby and me tickets to see Holiday on Ice in Muenich on Valentine's Day.
Can't wait to see my granddaughter's face light up when she sees the princesses glide over the ice. Who am I kidding;...I love Holiday on Ice too. Any other fans out there?

Chatty, I don't think that's selfish at all. We all have to do what is best for us, and if old memories are painful, why do something to bring them up to the surface? Do you have any other unattached girlfriends that you could have dinner with that night? And if you don't want to go out, maybe cook in and watch some funny movies?

What surprises (and aggravates me) are the girlfriends I have who will go out with "anybody" on that day, just so they have a date. One friend in particular pretty much despises the man she will be seeing that weekend, but he's "better than nothing." IMHO, that reflects badly on our gender, to use someone in that way.

Holiday on Ice sounds fantastic! It's been many years since I've seen one of those show, but I do remember how much I enjoyed the performances. I hope you all have a great time!

Oh, remember the friend I said I was a bit jealous of, the one who had met the guy at the car place? Well, she got two dozen red roses delivered to her office last week. They also plan to fly out of state for a romantic Valentine's weekend. And I'm wondering if I'm even going to get a card. Oh well, life "is" entertaining, isn't it? LOL...

Whirlwind

i heared that on the radio today valentines day was best night o go 0ut on if looking for a date as most cupples are being very cosy out or most of all snuggled at thome!

sp many people who are single are out with frends and lots of singles meet each other. Ever heared of this happening?

I will most probably be staying home with Reeta and Rosee, who turned 11 years old today. Happy Birthday my angels!!!

I will call my mom and we will sit and chat for an hour, laugh and act crazy, Thats good enough for me, the only thing better would be being with her in person. She is my Valentine...

If my mom were still alive, I'd be spending it with her too. What a nice idea Chatty, to talk with you mom on that special day.

I mailed the musical card today, because "guy friend" is going to be working out of town doing a training class next weekend.

I saw the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" last Saturday night. I've got to say, it was a real eye-opener.

The girlfriend I went with, we had a great time. At dinner afterwards, as we were discussing our men, we'd talk about a particular circumstance, then we'd howl "He's just not that into us!" That is definately our new catch phrase for awhile.

Seriously though, if there is any truth to that movie at all (and it is based on the book of the same title), we females worry about all of this way too much.

If a guy wants to talk to us, or see us, or be with us, he will find a way to do it. If he's not that into us, he won't. Took me 50 years to realize the truth in that. But hey, better late than never, isn't that right?

If I don't at least get a card from the guy, he's history. Because "he's just not that into me."

:-)

Whirlwind

Whirlwind, I just posted about looking forward to seeing that movie in another forum. I read the book and got a kick out of it. There's so much truth in that book. And it all seems so easy to understand while reading about it, but boy do grils/women make it complicated.

I can picture you and your friend laughing at dinner. NIce visual. Thanks for sharing. Was it the friend you've been telling us about? If so, I'm guessing she's thinking he IS that into her!

I want to see this film too, I have been reading about the film version of "He's just not that into you" for a while in the press building it up and I hope to see it soon, it sounds really funny with a lot of truth. You know the guy who wrote the book for this also wrote for the TV series "Sex and the City"...

A woman wrote the Sex and the City book, named Candice Bushnell and her character Miranda on the TV series used that phrase years ago. It stuck in my mind back then and now they are using it again in this new book.

Hi Chatty, I know that Candice wrote the book "Sex and the City", but I was talking about the TV series that was on HBO, Candice may have been a contributor writer on the series, but the guy who wrote the book "I'm just not that into you" also wrote for the TV series "Sex and the city" - I know this because he was on Oprah talking about the book a while back...

i have been invited to a local biker club "do" in one of our local pubs, generallie a nice time had by all . so tghats my valentines day and i looking forwared to it lol.
(rember uk and usa bikers are very very diffrent)

id love to see that movie too, as i have enjoyed the trallers but i still think its ll stuff we know alreadie but getting a good look at ourselfs and the sillie stuff thats done is very entertaining to me anyway

Dotsie, my "movie/dinner partner" was NOT the same one that is in the current, wonderful relationship. I get to meet that guy tomorrow night, going to dinner with them. I can't wait, it will be so good to see her act goofy with a guy who is crazy about her.

The lady I saw the movie with is seeing a man she doesn't care for on Valentine's Day, IMHO because she just does not want to be alone on that day.

The movie was not "ha-ha" funny. It did have some funny moments, but had a lot of thoughtful stuff too. Very worth seeing though.

Whirlwind