OK, the dreaded “V” day is once again on the horizon.

I told you all about the out-of-state guy I’m “seeing” now. We’ve only spent four weekends together so far, and talk often.

Anyway, I want to get him something for Valentine’s Day, but it has to be a generic/non-romantic type gift. I suppose I just want to acknowledge the day without overdoing anything because he doesn’t seem to be the romantic type.

Any suggestions?

Whirlwind

How about buying tickets to a movie?

Edelweiss, I probably won't get to see him again until mid to late February, depending on what his work schedule is. So I'd like for the gift to be something I could mail, that he could enjoy without me being there.

This is a hazard/problem with long distance stuff, especially when in the "getting to know someone" stage. If he was local, buying tickets to an event would be no problem, that is a fantastic idea.

Thanks for the thought...

Whirlwind

Would a simple funny card be enough? Hallmark has these fun cards that make music and small movements. They are a bit more special that a simple card, but not a big gift.

For easily shipped gifts, remember that many online stores will ship anything direct. A book on his favorite topic from amazon.com. Flowers - men seldom receive flowers and there are many man friendly type of flowers. Or a plant that he could keep. I always find a peace plant (prayer plant?) a good choice.

How is it going, anyway? Are you two finding yourself compatible? Are you enjoying the long distance relationship?

Maybe a card "would" be enough. Or a card and some sort of gift certificate.

I know he likes me, that is obvious. But not being around each other much makes this sort of thing hard. And I truly don't know if he will do anything for me for the occasion, maybe he isn't at that point yet. But I don't want to ignore it, in case he "does" send a card or something.

So to answer your question Anno, it's going well, when we're together we are very compatible, and we talk often between visits. I do admit though, it would be nice to be dating someone local, so a mid-week dinner or a regular Saturday night date would be possible. This once every six weeks or longer thing is going to get old.

Whirlwind

I would just send a fun card, and as Anno said, many of them have fun music now as well. If you can find one that plays a song he can relate to, that would be great.

For such a short time knowing him, I don't think you should put in a gift certificate. He may not do anything for you, and then he'll feel really bad. A card is a good gesture without pushing the line too far.

K

OK, a card it is. Thanks ladies, it's always good to get opinions and affirmations from you all!

Whirlwind

I'm in agreement with a fun, musical card. That's perfect.

That makes three because just a musical cutsie card is plenty in this situation...I always loved Valentines Day maybe even more than Birthdays or Christmas. Mine were always so special and romantic and I am always sullen and cranky on that day now. I stay home so as not to have to see lovers out and about all lovey-dovey and happy together. Is that being selfish do you think?

no not selfish as your ensurring that your sorrow dose't impinge upon any one else, in fact its quite the opposite of selfish.

i am sorted for valentines big time as L (my son) got me a lovelie card and a wee gift and i for him and his favorite little girle (we post it) frend as iv told him its a day weer we tell people we either love or care for them. (i may have paid for it but lol)

i got for him a ballon shapped like a love hart for all of 99p (he asked for it) he was carrying back from shop we got cards and ballon in we stopped in a jewlares (as its soon his birthday) and the shop assistant asked what its for and he told her "its becouse I love my mum". got him away with bad behaviour for about 10 minetds lol.

i am putting him into tranning earlie lol