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#104064 - 01/22/07 02:35 AM
Dating "Rules" these days?
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Registered: 01/18/05
Posts: 261
Loc: Atlanta, GA
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OK, I officially feel like I'm living in the dark ages. Am I the only one who doesn't think that "dating" means "sleeping with someone?"
I'm not talking about long term relationships. I hear many of my single friends talk, and it seems like even a first date "dinner and a movie" implies a roll in the hay these days.
The reason I'm asking this is, I met a man this past weekend at a seminar. We had dinner, and he made it plain how he'd like the night to end. But when I said no, he made an immediate turn around, apologized, and was a complete gentleman the rest of the evening. When I saw him the next day he was very nice, asked for my number/email at the end of the event, and again apologized for the night before. I told him no need to apologize, that just wasn't what I was looking for.
Time will tell if I hear from him again but I've gotta admit I hope I do.
Thoughts?
Whirlwind
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#104066 - 01/22/07 02:25 PM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 01/24/05
Posts: 1550
Loc: Colorado
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oh oh, I think I know the answer.
I've done a TON of reading on the subject of dating (trying to become a professional in my field)..and what they say is this....
That guys WILL try to have sex with you immediately.
1. If you do you are setting yourself up to be nothing more then a fling. No chance of a real relationship if this is how you start out.
2. If you don't then the guy will see that you value yourself, and if he isn't a slimeball, he will pursue you in a relationship.
so, unfortunately this is a type of a test. Guys want SEX, but they really want a woman worth pursing!
my two cents, danita
Edited by Danita (01/22/07 02:27 PM)
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#104067 - 01/22/07 03:00 PM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
[Re: Danita]
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Queen of Shoes
Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
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I think a lot of men these days are confused because so many women will jump into the sack on the first date. I wish women understood that to do that, they give away a small piece of their soul in the process.
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#104068 - 01/22/07 03:32 PM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
[Re: Dianne]
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Registered: 01/18/05
Posts: 261
Loc: Atlanta, GA
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Thanks for the replies. I DO feel a bit better after reading your thoughts.
Keep your fingers crossed for me on this one. This is the first person I've met in a LONG time that I'd actually like to hear from again.
Thanks all!
Whirlwind
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#104071 - 01/23/07 01:10 AM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
[Re: chatty lady]
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Whirlwind, I hope he does call you if he has honorable intentions. If not, then you're better off b/c he may have, or is, attempted the same w/ other women. I simply want you to protect your heart!
Since you live in a large city, might there be any Christian singles groups in your local area?
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#104073 - 01/23/07 02:31 AM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
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Registered: 01/18/05
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I agree with you all. And no worries MustangGal, since I'm not actively "looking" there isn't any danger of a broken heart. This was dinner with a hope of more contact, nothing else.
We are strong. We can (and DO) take care of ourselves.
Anno, he was here from out of town, but I live here. And yes, the event was in a hotel.
Jawjaw, you are wise as always. Chatty, you have good points too, as do the rest of you.
It just amazes me sometimes that men don't seem to worry about what "we" think about "them." If a man tries that on a first date, there's nothing special about it. How many other women have gone on a first date and said "yes?" Is there any specialness to it, or is it just something to do?
I have another close male friend who has always said "sex is just sex. It can be recreational, or it can be more." I hate the thought of that, but sometimes think he must be right in his representation of the male gender. When I think that he's right, I'm glad to be single. LOL.
Again, thanks for the thoughts, I do appreciate it.
Whirlwind
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#104074 - 01/23/07 02:35 PM
Re: Dating "Rules" these days?
[Re: Whirlwind]
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Queen of Shoes
Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
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I wouldn't waste my time on a background check unless he shows up a couple more times. Could be a waste of energy for nothing.
My husband ran a background check on me when we first started getting serious. I guess I passed!
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