Personally I would like a guy who can provide, so I can retire someday and spend time with him instead of working til I croak. I don't need a rich one, just a responsible, self-sufficient one who likes to spend just a little of the $$$ on me.
Certainly Ann, it would be helpful that both partners contributed to pay for living expenses, housing, etc. or "in kind" work as a full-time housewife/house hubby if no children around / caretaker for childen/live-in aging parent...PLUS have abit leftover for a "Friday night date" or wk. long vacation out of town somewhere.
That's what I was meaning. But there are some women who are secretly waiting/hoping to land the well-off male fish. And I don't think certain shows (ie. Desperate Housewives) and real life society gals who wear elegant fashionable clothes,..really help the situation. There's nothing totally wrong with that but if it means the hoping woman is not looking at her own life path and what types of opportunities to save money or earn more money (ie. take some night courses to upgrade her skills), then it is putting one's life on hold..for the Prince to save the woman.
I agree that pay equity between men and women isn't always there.
Here are 2 stories of women with challenging financial situations but can with tremendous preseverance and hard work realize part of their dream ...on their own:
1) My partner's daughter-in-law, her mother is a single mom and raised her daughter since she was 2. Father ran away. The mother became an accountant (over a long period time to get courses and credentials) and has her own house. No, she didn't get an inheritance. The accountant's family lives on farm in a totally different province...
2) one of my sisters, who is single and childless...is a receptionist (which is not high paying at all) for a major hospital. And has had this job for nearly 20 yrs. She saved down payment and has her own tiny detached house. She doesn't own a car and uses public transit. She made sure she bought close to conveniences. So she saves alot of money.
She is like all her sisters and mother, she can sew..and has done for some of her clothing, etc. So there are ways of saving...
Instead of waiting for the knight on white horse to save you.