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#62539 - 12/20/05 11:17 PM
Support for the childless
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I think it's time I posted the link to my website. I am co-founder (for nearly 4 years now!) of the website Childless Not By ChoiceThis is mainly for those who were/are never able to have children for any reason and of any age. The feeling of loss never goes away. Especially this time of year, if you know of anyone who could not have children, OR if you'd like to learn how to communicate with those close to you who cannot have children or grandchildren, please refer them here or visit us for your own education. This is the ONLY board on the web(that we know of) that is Christian-based. Also remember that, if you have adult female children who cannot conceive, they are going through a very hard time. Please be gentle with them, not making them feel guilty for not "giving you grandkids". Oh yes, there are MANY parents who do this! [ December 20, 2005, 03:24 PM: Message edited by: Di ]
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#62541 - 12/22/05 02:21 AM
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Thanks Dotsie. Actually, I believe I sent you an email. If you cannot find it, let me know, OK??
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#62543 - 12/22/05 09:03 PM
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Just resent it to dots@nabbw.com [ December 22, 2005, 01:04 PM: Message edited by: Di ]
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#62544 - 12/23/05 02:35 AM
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Di, thanks for speaking up and educating everyone about this important subject.
Sometimes it never occurs to some folks how painful it is for a woman who cannot have children. You are doing such a kind service for those women and I'm sure it's really appreciated.
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#62545 - 12/23/05 04:56 AM
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(((HUGS))) of Thanks, ladybug and Dotsie,
Yes, we have almost 800 registered members. No, not all are active, but I really don't know how many are lurking daily!
It was such a needed area that was just never considered anywhere. For years, I'd searched (the web) for any semblance of support and found nil. Then, the Lord sent me my co-founder through another Christian site! Hence, our site was "birthed", if you will, through email she and I began. She and I have never met but just feel it should be very soon.
Thanks to all, once again for allowing me to open up here. Our "ilk" is not always well accepted or tolerated. Many consider us complainers and often tell us to "get over it" but WE know that is not easy. Each situation is oh so different from the next. Whether it's cancer, genetic issues, choices by spouses who may have had children from a previous marriage and want no more, medical causes, or just "unexplained". Each part of the journey varies and we all get those "gotcha" moments when we THINK we are ok, but get those gut wrenchings that remind us that we are not. (ie: the announcement of a pg'cy that was not anticipated etc) [ December 22, 2005, 08:57 PM: Message edited by: Di ]
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#62546 - 12/23/05 09:23 PM
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I just joined---and am still devouring all the stories. I think I may have found just the place to help me get past this last hurdle in accepting the fact that I will never have children.
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#62547 - 12/24/05 01:21 AM
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Hi Kay,
Yeah, I saw you registered with us! So, tell me...how would you define your "last hurdle" in acceptance of being CNBC? Maybe you could share it with us at our site as well.
Personally, I to not think I will ever "get over" it. To me, it's just way too natural and normal for a woman to desire/nurture/want babies. And, the different stages of life bring on new "gotcha moments". [ December 23, 2005, 05:22 PM: Message edited by: Di ]
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#62548 - 12/24/05 06:38 AM
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Di, do people really tell you to "get over it?" The stupidity and insensitivity of such a comment astounds me!
I would ask them what advice they have on how to "get over" something as serious as this is to you. You'll probably get some really lame "advice." Now thinking on it, maybe it's better not to ask for their "expert" (ha) advice.
Do you ever notice how freely advice is given by someone who has never been in your situation?
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