My 18-year-old daughter left telling me that our relationship is over. She entered a 30-day eating disorder treatment center, which she needed to do, so we paid for it. We have been unsuccessful in outpatient care. She wants me to leave her father because she found out recently that 5 years ago he had an affair and because he has bipolar I disorder and was untreated until 2 years ago. We have always been very close and I have truly spoiled her, trying to make up for the ups and downs of living with a bipolar dad. My husband is treated and doing well now. She called once swearing and demanding money.I miss her so much and struggle with acceptance.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Life can be such an uphill struggle. But as my signature Bible verse says " All things work together for good for those who love the Lord and who are called, according to His purpose..."
It would be nice, sometimes, to know what that purpose is.
I will pray for peace and strength for your family.

JPW, I am so sorry to hear that your daughter and you are struggling. I think the best thing to realize is that this is a stage. It will pass. I doubt very seriously that she will stay angry for long. Unfortunately, we parents have to endure teen moods. I know your heart is aching. I will pray for you to find other activities to occupy your mind during this difficult time.

I have two teens and a twenty year old. I've heard my share of eating disorder stories. I'll pray your daughter meets with success while in this program. Is she nearby? can you visit?

JPW, my daughter is in a alcohol program right now so I understand how you're feeling. I think anger is part of the problem that goes along with any disorder and they will help her deal with it in the program. Try to not take it personally.

Like you, I tried to make up to my daughter for the lack of a father. He deserted all the kids and I stepped in and tried to be both parents. In doing so, she is spoiled too. I didn't do her any favors.

Mine would call and ask me to mail stuff to her and honestly, it wasn't anything she couldn't do without. They don't need money because everything is covered in the cost of the program. I bought her a 300 minute calling card and she gave it to her room mate! That irritated me.

You have to be strong right now and not be pressured into accepting her demands. I'm trying to uncreate the monster I created.

JPW, I just read this post and wonder how you and your daughter are doing?