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#24556 - 09/02/05 04:44 AM
empty nest, too
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Registered: 08/16/05
Posts: 2
Loc: Tennessee
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Hello, this is my first time posting on this website. I'm a 53 year old work-at-home mother whose 18 year old daughter has just moved out to live with her boyfriend. It's been really difficult for me because she has cut off contact pretty much. I keep asking myself what I have done wrong because I thought I was a pretty good mom. I'm trying to give her room though which seems best since she won't answer my phone calls. I am an animal lover, too (7 dogs and 5 cats) and live on 9 acres in the middle of nowhere, Westmoreland, Tennessee. It's nice here but very isolated and I am feeling very lonely now that my daughter is gone. My husband tries to understand but he's gone out in the world all day while I sit in front of my computer doing medical transcription. My problems seem so small compared to the folks in the gulf that I'm almost ashamed to complain. If anyone has any good advice on dealing with this pain though, I sure would appreciate hearing it.
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#24558 - 09/02/05 05:18 AM
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Registered: 03/22/05
Posts: 4876
Loc: Canada
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I love your name, Morethanamom! Great choice, because you ARE more than a mom. I'm really sorry for your pain, it must hurt to watch your daughter leave in that way. I hope she calls you soon. And in the meantime, I hope you find some solace and good companionship here. It's a warm place to be, and a caring bunch of women to be with. And when one of us hurts, we all do care. The pain in the gulf is devastating, but your pain also needs looking after, so welcome in, nestle your lonely soul into our midst and make yourself at home.
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#24559 - 09/02/05 05:50 AM
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Registered: 08/08/05
Posts: 816
Loc: Fredericksburg, Va.
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Hi, it's really hard when your babies decide to leave home. Of course out of 5 adult children 4 of mine are still home. Last year our baby girl 19 at the time, decided she was total mature and needed to move in with her boyfriend. What a misfit he was, you couldn't tell her one thing. She was in love, or so she thought. Broke her poor daddy heart, cause she told all her friends we had kicked her out. Not to mention her being daddy's girl. All her brothers talked to her, her sister...all to deaf ears. Took less than 2 weeks before she came home. Sometimes, it's the life lessons. Doesn't make it any easier on your heart strings. Pray she contacts you soon, & lets you know just how much she loves you. It's never easy for a mama to turn lose. Just ask me. Welcome, you'll love it here.
Brenda
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#24560 - 09/02/05 02:58 PM
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Registered: 08/02/05
Posts: 154
Loc: FL
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Welcome! You'll find that many of us have been through similiar situations. As encouragement, let me say my daughter left home at 18, too. It took a while, but she is now married to a great guy, with one child and another on the way. And the best part? We've gone from barely speaking to each other to being able to say we're truly one of each other's best friends. Give it time. Surround yourself with friends (even if they are virtual friends.) You'll find lots of love and support on BWS. Please allow us to welcome you and comfort you as you pass through this painful part of your life.
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#24561 - 09/03/05 02:23 AM
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Registered: 08/16/05
Posts: 2
Loc: Tennessee
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Thank you all, ladies, for the wonderful words of encouragement and support. My daughter did call me last night and told me she loved me. May not hear from her again for a while but that really made me feel better. Going to leave her alone, concentrate on doing things I enjoy and making a better life for my husband and me.
This is a great forum and I intend to revisit. Thanks again.
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#24564 - 09/29/05 10:39 PM
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Registered: 09/28/05
Posts: 9
Loc: Connecticut
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I just thought I share this with you morethanamom and all of you empty nesters out there, I found this in a book: "How did you let your child go? It was the most impossible thing in the world. But...you don't really have a choice. They don't belong to you, your children, they never did. They are entrusted to you for a short time. You do your best, you protect them wisely. If they change their names, you asked them what they want to be called. If they want to go sailing, you help them find the wind."
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