Hey gagirl, I may not be in the best frame of mind to give advice but I'll give it and you can sift it for what it's worth.

I am in the middle of divorce from my husband of 24 years. Sex was non-existent. We had been to counselors, he would 'change' for a few months adn slip right back into whatever it was he was doing in his home office.

He always had so much work to do, and nothing I did was good enough. I have gone through spurts--no sex for 2 years, brief good time (son was born) then no sex for 5 years, brief good time, (after remarried him) no sex for 7 years, brief good time (while we were in counseling) no sex for 10 years--and I have had it--divorce will take place.

I didn't have the guts to pursue this until the sheriff arrived at my door with a search warrant looking for child porn. Turned out his little habit of looking at women had blossomed to include children and men.

After being confronted with a search warrant I found out he also had gay encounters. I have since found that he had 'outed' himself on gay websites, listing himself as unmarried with no children.

This man seemed perfectly NORMAL and HETROSEXUAL before marriage.

Porn is addictive and can lead down the road to so many things. If left unchecked eventually looking at porn isn't enough and they start looking for real people to play their fantasies out on.

Take it seriously, make him deal with it or get you and your child out before something really bad happens. Staying together for the sake of the child does little for the child--they know a lot more than you realize, feel emotionally a lot more than you know and may be in danger!