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#9833 - 12/16/05 03:51 AM
Re: Whatever happened to integrity?
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Registered: 08/08/05
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Loc: Fredericksburg, Va.
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You are a wise women to keep quiet until all is said and done.
I have never been able to stay quiet when people are lying to my face and I know it. It's either my mouth or my facial expressions that give me away every time.
Things, I need to work on.
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#9834 - 12/15/05 06:04 PM
Re: Whatever happened to integrity?
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Yepthatsme2, I understand, I too have difficulty staying quite when someone is lying to my face, and unfortunately when I become to over emotional I then look like I'm in the wrong when I'm right!
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#9835 - 12/15/05 10:25 PM
Re: Whatever happened to integrity?
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
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Hi all, it's me with an update of my own. My soon-to-be-ex is on teh 'offensive'. Sending me notes on e-mail, text messaging me and today sent me a 4 page letter about how he doesn't want divorce and prays for us daily, etc. Blah, blah, blah. Since this is the 3rd breakup with him I can now see the pattern. He says whatever he thinks I need to hear and then once I fall for it and come back--it ends and he goes right back to being a bugger.
Unfortunately, even though I can now see the pattern and resist it, it is still emotionally draining and very upsetting. We have been seperated for over a year and he is just now sending/saying these things. why? Because he is about out of time. He has delayed us in court 4 times and he won't be granted anymore extensions. At least now I can see that is doesn't really have anything to do with not wanting a divorce--if that were the case then He would have been saying those things all along. WAiting till the end only proves that it's just to get me to stop.
I know it, but it still hurts. Anyway, thanks for listening! Merry Christmas all!
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#9836 - 12/15/05 10:34 PM
Re: Whatever happened to integrity?
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Registered: 09/20/05
Posts: 2560
Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado
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Sounds like you know him pretty well and are able to stand your ground. It's very upsetting and it may get worse before it gets better, but we'll all be praying for you. You can get through this! Peace, starting over.
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#9840 - 12/19/05 12:51 PM
Re: Whatever happened to integrity?
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Da Queen
Registered: 07/02/03
Posts: 12025
Loc: Alabama
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That is simply horrible. Just horrible! And I cannot believe she was so self-serving as to tell you. My guess is she did so to relieve her own self of guilt, OR, the thought he might tell you and she wanted to first. She told you to rid herself of guilt, and to have you say, "oh well, you were only trying to get good advice."
I say, this woman does not deserve your friendship, or consideration. She wanted to dump her own guilt and did so at your expense. Friends don't do that. Course, friends don't date your husbands either. She's a toad.
You are NOT a reflection of her OR him.
You are a real person. With strength, INTEGRITY, and warmth. Carry on honey... don't let her or anyone else stop you. Roar!
JJ
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