"These" men do horrible things because they are still emotionally attached to you. And, when I pointed that out to my ex, it made him so angry, he left me alone to prove the point that I had already made. He didn't want for me to think he still cared. And, I did it in such a nice way..."I'm sorry you're still so emotionally attached to me that you feel you must keep yourself tied to me with legalities that only cost you more money. Just a thought.