I haven't given an update lately on my divorce so here's the latest. (For those who don't remember, I was married 24 yrs to a man who turned out to be gay and was being investigated by the FBI for downloading child porn)

He has delayed the court date 4 times. It has now been 1 year and 1 month since the sheriff first arrived with a search warrant--my first visit to an attorney was the same day.

The house hasn't sold and the lisitng agreement ran out. I relisted with a different company hoping to get better results. By law he has to sign the listing agreement. It came back signed--with an addendum sheet!
1. Not only will we look at offers for straight sales, we will look at contract for deed, lease purchase, rental, land sale--this keeps me at risk since my name has to stay on the mortgage.
2. He has to be informed 24 hrs. BEFORE anyone looks at the house. That will knock out anyone who drives by, or is in town for a weekend to look at houses.
3. He will be informed how any showing went within 48 hrs.
4. All open houses must be approved 1 week in advance by him. No other reasons for going to house without a 1 week in advance ok by him.
5. If I don't give him a key tothe house by Dec. 9th the contract to list the house is void!

He continues to tie my hands to get the house sold and get away from him. He hasn't helped pay a single bill since he left town yet..I am supposed to allow him to set the terms by which the house is sold?

And any unconventional sale leaves me vulnerable--if they stop paying I'd still have to make the payment--he has't helped yet, does he really think I'm stupid enough to beleive he would start then????? If he's sitting in jail because of the child porn how would he help make a payment?????

I just can't believe this is happening! I'm soooooo frustrated--and I can't get back into court in front of a judge until Feb. 6!

Anyway I have ameeting withthe attorney this Thurs. eve. Sorry to vent!

PS It may not sound like it but it is so worth going through this to get away from him. I didn't realize how destructive the relationship was and didn't have any idea he had a secret life going but oh, the freedom in knowing!