Bah a warm and hearty welcome from a neighbor, well close enough as in Las Vegas, NV. I have been in Scottsdale for the day just fooling around, its a nice drive from here....We will become your very dear friends if you allow us to, some of my dearest/best friends are right here and we have never met yet....About that loser husband of yours, hire an attorney and get some of that cash and property reinstated into your name, what he did was fraud and a good attorney should be able to help you....You were right when you said maybe you were the lucky one with a family by your side. He will get his come-upins mark my word...He doesn't and never did deserve a woman like you...His loss and I bet the new one makes him miserable they both have to get past guilt that has a way of creeping into the relationship....

In culinary school...you can take out your hurt feelings and anger as you pound or slice a big ol' slab of meat! It would work for me

I think you have sooooo much to be proud of. Getting back on your feet can be hard and you've jumped right in and taken the bull by the horns. I think it's awesome. Good for you! I think you're great.

Wow!!! I am overwhelmed with y'all. By the way, I moved here from Memphis, Dianne (not too far from you)! And before Memphis I lived in Las Vegas for years chatty lady! Lived in Green Valley by Pecos and Wigwam area! Still have a best friend there. Originally I am from Ohio Daiygirl! Grew up there in a little town called Olmsted Falls. Heard of it?

See, I moved wherever this man got relocated to! Except to Arizona. That was my choice after so many moves. It is where I wanted to retire and not have to move anymore. I am a planner and when my daughter moved here I thought it might be a good time to pick that house out so I could be by them and help with her child. My husband is 55 years old and after this employment contract is finished, he was going to come here with me (so he said originally). Until then I was going to go back and forth. Looks like I am here to stay now!

Well you all are right, his new relationship (or probably old one for all I know) will be doomed from the get go! He hasn't even admitted the whole thing and probably never will. His motto is the less said the best. I did a lot of investigation work after he couldn't look at me anymore as well as other "signs", on my own! I learned a lot through an investigator. That really doesn't matter anyway because that old Karma button will get them both!

The very best to all of you. You are all some group! It really made me feel better to have some positive reinforcement. If anyone comes to this area, let me know......

Bah, you will be fine, because now you are in charge of you! Many of your feelings will mimic the stages of grief, you will have good days and bad days, good five minutes and bad five minutes--does this sound like experience talking? You betcha! As has been offered, get a good lawyer, get support (whether groups, church, or counseling), take the high road when it comes to children, and know that life gets only richer and better...giving you a hug from "up north"..

Bah... wanted to extend my welcome also.
"What goes around...always comes around", he'll get his just desserts.
What are these men thinking??? Get yourself a low slide on da belly snake attorney and go for it.

Why is it that women are forever taking the responsibility? Picking up the pieces and moving forward.
Sounds as if you are headed in a very positive direction, may you heal complete and totally.

Scottsdale is such a beautiful place.
On all my trips back and forth across the country, Scottsdale was always my favorite.
Wonderful place for healing.

Welcome Bah....sorry I missed your "entry" into Boomerland! I too was "dumped" for the younger woman by my ex. We'd been married 17 years when he decided to leave and move in with this other woman....about three weeks after he packed up and deserted, I learned I had cancer so not only did I have to deal with all the heartache/insecurity but the health issue too. Never felt quite so alone. BUT - to make a long story short (!), I made it just fine through my surgery, we divorced, he married his "young chick", SHE left HIM after ten years of marriage (hahaha), and I lived happily ever after....at least so far! I remarried and have been married this time around for 15 years. Interestingly, my current hubby's first wife dumped HIM for a younger man.

It sounds like you are finding your place in this situation that you are in - and doing a good job of it too! I applaud you for picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and hopping back on the bicycle of life.

I was wondering how your children feel about their dad and what he's done. Sounds like a mid-life crisis, if you believe in them. I don't. I feel it's a man who is getting older and afraid of it and not being able to attract the opposite sex anymore. Now, his new "chicky" can watch him grow older by the day and the pressure will be on! He's going to be exhausted just trying to act young.

It all comes around eventually.

Smilinize...absolutely beautiful story.
Thank-you for sharing.

One night when my (our) daughter was about 4, my former husband punished her for something...she cried and cried in her room and finally came downstairs, stood right in front of him and said, "Daddy, you have broken my heart into little tiny pieces and they fell into my tummy...and don't you dare ever do that again...." He made my (our) son feel that way many times, did it to me, too - for years and years. Just remember, what goes around, comes around and the most important thing is to take care of yourself, first, and your children and grandchild next. You are obviously a strong, intelligent, compassionate woman and I will be proud to call you my friend from this moment forward. Beleive me when I say you will come out the winner in every way. Welcome to your new home here. You are loved and supported.