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I have never regreted joining BWS or pouring out my woes. In real life I have regreted telling too much. When my 'dramas' happened I was not with it at work. I am in a high profile job and felt I should explain myself to my boss, a lady, who appeared sympathetic. However BIG mistake. She is older, always been single, now seems to view me as a complete dunce. For those who don't know, I chose to stay married when my husband wanted to leave. He would have left if he truly wanted that. He is not the sort to be coerced into anything he does not want to do. However, some of my friends thought I was a saint, and others like my boss, thought I was a dimwit!! So, I actually find this forum a safe haven to express myself, because there are no real life repurcussions, well that is not entirely true, the support here is constant and that has given me so much strength.
I would actually be interested in Michelle's views on 'women who stay with men who stray' - that is the title of a book I have borrowed from the library in an attempt to understand myself better!! I wonder if I should start a thread with that theme??

I have a bad habit of telling to much at work and regret it! Yet, BWS is a safe haven to share ideas and a wonderful support system.

I believe by sharing some of your innermost feelings you allow people to gain a better understanding of who you are. Sometimes I hurt and want to share it. Life isn't happy go lucky all the time. You never know who's life you will impact when you share.

I want to talk about my sex life more because it's sooooo good. OK who's blushing????


Peace & Blessings,
Beverly Mahone
Author, Whatever! A Baby Boomer's Journey Into Middle Age
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Celtic, you are amazing how you kept up with your education while dealing with dyslexia. And you have a 3 year old? Your work is similar to my interest. In the US, it is not that SI is a "growing trend." SI (self injury) has always been a way that some who suffer turn to in order to feel relief. The difference is that SI or SH gets more attention now, and counselors are trying to understand. It is true here in US that there are not enough counselors to go around to all those who seek help. Thanks for telling us more about yourself!

Popea, thanks for telling more of yourself. I also write about DV and CSA. Funny how similar some societies are no matter where they are around the world. It sounds like you are in a good "place" in your life spiritually speaking, and otherwise. It's so great that boomer women is international!

I used to have a postit note on my PC at work which said Peace, Love, Silence - just to remind myself. I think I'll put it back.

Celtic_Flame and others:)

My poetry absolutely blathers about my private life, so I don't feel that I'm much of a mystery. Plus my pic and practically life story have been out there since ... forever. My websites list my full name.

This said, I'm a "what you see is what you get" kinda gal -- stultifyingly logical and eye-poppingingly honest. I'm one of the earlier members here, and those who know me will tell you that I don't mince words if I have something to say. I don't worry about people disagreeing with me or not liking what I write, because it would be delusional to suppose that we all agree on everything. I also try to look out for others, if I feel someone is getting hassled.

In the emotional arena, I feel my purpose at BWS is more to help than to be helped. Sometimes I omit things about my life because the stories are too complicated and it would be too much effort to type it all out.

In the absolute worst rock-bottom year of my marriage, I was in a chat room almost every night from 1-3am, which is when the weirdest of the weird and the saddest of the sad came out. People were constantly playing head games. I took it as intellectual sport and anything-to-not-go-to-bed-with-my-husband. Since most of the chat-roomers were constantly lying, I tried to trump the lies -- instead of posting a 30-year-old pic of myself (or someone else!) I maintained that I was 7'3" and weighed 485 lbs. Or something like that. Thankfully, we don't get that bs here.

Most of the deleted posts at BWS were either men or spammers. The ladies here all make it a point to not be rude to each other (although we've had a few rabid squirrels now and then.)

Say what you will, as long as you say it with heart.

Thank you Meredith for explaining that so well. Just another reason we call you, "The Divine Ms M." Don't you just love this gal?