*There's an ancient Chinese proverb that says:
"The gem cannot be polished without friction; nor man perfected without trials."

*Climb up on some hill at sunrise. Everybody needs perspective once in a while, and you'll find it there.
-Robb Sagendorph

*Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
-Dr. Seuss

*You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

I know, these are just words, and it's all easier said then done. I send hugs to you both!

Anne,

Are you the gal who knows how to do background checks?

Have you thought of marketing your services to other single ladies to bring in some income? I don't know what it costs for you to do the searches - but if you could keep the cost down for your clients - I could see it working.

Heck, you could sign me up to be one of your clients!

danita

(ps, if someone has already suggested this, I'm sorry...I HAVE been absent for a long period of time!)

Make that two so far, sign me up too I could have you see if you can find any info on my missing son!

Chatty, do you have any idea where he is? Do a drivers license search. That's the first thing a PI will do.

Ladies, is there something virtual we can do to boost Anne as she maintains her caregiving status? Thoughts?

Oh, Anne. I agree with you about depression and absolutely understand your feelings. Do you have Medicare or Medicaid? Can you get meds? I took meds for depression when my father passed and it helped me. Only needed them for 6 months and then felt better able to go on. I'm glad you have us. We will be here for you. Please take care and keep on posting.

Saundra, great idea. Anne, how about a support group for caregivers? Do you have any in your area?

I've been running around the south a bit and just got back to this thread.

Danita, so glad you made it through...knew you would...it does get easier...every day...I promise!

Saundra, I agree with you...I'd rather be on my own than to be with someone else's family...a lot of people don't understand that...but it's less lonely!

Anne, do you journal? Have you tried scripting how you would like your life to be? It's a simple technique...you just write in the present tense and create anything you want in your life. It works because it changes your energy and your subconscious starts to believe it and brings it into your reality. I have a section on this in 'Where the Joys Are: Bertha's Guided Journal'. I'll be happy to send you one if you're interested. Just PM me with your address.

Hi, Anne:

Here he is with a rose for you!!! Happy New Year!!!

Anne, praise God for internet support. I recall my sister being invovled with a forum for cancer caregivers while Mom was sick. She learned so much. She even told Mom's doctor about a medicine he had never heard about. Though it wasn't the right one for Mom, he said he would remember it and possible prescribe it for other patients.

Every time I turn around, I hear about another person who doesn't have insurance. I don't know what's going to happen when all the boomers retire and have to get insurance on their own. Something has to change. I really would love to grow the NABBW and be able to offer group health insurance. Wouldn't that be cool?

Happy New Year Anne.