Amen, Hannelore. I continue to be amazed by the spirits of the single women in this forum. You rock.

Here's a little summary:

-Tell family and friends how you are feeling. Don't wait for people to call you.

-Invite people to your home.

-Volunteer.

-Travel if you can afford it.

-Pamper yourself - take a bubble bath, drink a glass of wine, go to the movie you've been wanting to see, read a good book, sit with a stack of magazines, eat chocolates!

-Delve deeped in to your spirituality.

-Exercise, take a long walk alone or invite a friend, ride your bike, go to the park and swing.

-Choose what makes you happy by planning ahead.

And I might add, tell yourself you are going to enjoy the holiday season.

You are what you think.