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#94072 - 11/02/06 09:52 AM Angry people
Dianne Queen of Shoes Registered: 05/24/04 Posts: 6123 Loc: Arizona	Do you believe some people are angry because they want to be? Nothing seems to make them happy for very long. Is it a choice or can they be helped? I'm starting to feel that my youngest daughter will never be happy. _________________________ If it doesn't feel good, don't do it twice. www.eadv.net Boomer Queen of Shoes
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#94073 - 11/02/06 10:08 AM Re: Angry people [Re: Dianne]
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	I don't know if it is because the choice they make is "better" but I do know people who have been so miserable for such a long time that it is a way of life with them. They have become so "comfortable" with their misery that living outside of it (i.e., being happy) would be stepping out of their comfort zone and you know how scary that can be to some people. Also, living in anger and discontent CAN BE a habit. Just like making up your bed in the morning. Once a person falls into that "habit" of being angry all the time, they just subconsciously continue...They have literally trained their minds to think "this is a normal way for me to behave." At least that is Dr. Jaw Jaw's theory. _________________________ Queen JJ www.queenjawjaw.com All Things Royal - 2010 and Beyond Humorist for the NABBW
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#94074 - 11/02/06 11:42 AM Re: Angry people [Re: jawjaw]
Vicki M. Taylor Member Registered: 01/06/03 Posts: 2196 Loc: Tampa, FL	It's a good theory, JJ. I don't think any of us wake up one morning and say "I'm going to be angry today." I believed it's a learned reflex or attitude. I don't think it's inherited or there is an "anger" gene. Like JJ said, some people are so comfortable wrapped up in their anger, that to try anything else, would take them outside their comfort zone, probably to the point of having an anxiety attack or panic attack. Can anger be "unlearned".. I think so. With a lot of congnitive behavior therapy. _________________________ Vicki "What you believe yourself to be, you are." Claude M. Bristol Your Writing Coach Writing Coach Blog
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#94075 - 11/02/06 12:07 PM Re: Angry people [Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
Mountain Ash Member Registered: 12/30/05 Posts: 3027	My belief is that sometimes its too painful to be sad and in some people they bacome mad (angry) this observation is backed up in T.A. I have worked with many young people and once they turn the corner become their own sweet person. Mountain Ash
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#94076 - 11/02/06 02:17 PM Re: Angry people [Re: Mountain Ash]
Edelweiss Member Registered: 06/05/06 Posts: 4136 Loc: American living in Europe	May I ask how old is your daughter? Hannelore
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#94077 - 11/02/06 03:59 PM Re: Angry people [Re: Edelweiss]
Bluebird Member Registered: 09/20/05 Posts: 2560 Loc: Pagosa Springs, Colorado	Someone once told me that you can get addicted to anger. When you get angry, your body produces alot more adrenalin and you actually get hooked on the rush. This was not a professional who told me but someone who has been in therapy on and off for over 20 years. _________________________ Jackie In My Father's house are many mansions...John 14:2 http://www.myspace.com/westernbluebird
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#94078 - 11/02/06 05:22 PM Re: Angry people [Re: Bluebird]
Anno Member Registered: 09/15/05 Posts: 4434 Loc: Minneapolis Minnesota	I completely believe that anger is a habit and addictive, in the sense, it is how they know to behave and respond. For some, the very angry, I believe therapy is best. For others, there are many opportunities for self-awareness and self-improvement. Motivation to change is necessary no matter what. Simply knowing that you want to live a different life may be enough motivation for some. First she needs to determine what she is getting out of being angry all of the time. She can then find other ways to get this need met. So sorry she is so unhappy. _________________________ Follow our story of living, loving and laughing with a debilitating disease: http://www.multiplesystematrophyandshy-drager.blogspot.com
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#94079 - 11/02/06 06:45 PM Re: Angry people [Re: Anno]
Dianne Queen of Shoes Registered: 05/24/04 Posts: 6123 Loc: Arizona	She's 34. A very beautiful young woman but not on the inside. I used to go out of my way to make her happy and I realized it was just to get rid of my tension. I don't do that anymore. She upset her brother when she visted him and his wife and new baby. She didn't talk and rarely held the baby and she's a baby lover too. I've thought of talking to her but she scares me in a way. I don't like to be yelled at and I don't like anger. I've had too much of that in my life. But, I think she uses her anger to make others back off. She once told me she enjoyed being a b****. I think that's awful and sad. I have gone off on her when I can't take it anymore. I can only deal with so much. I'm exhausted. _________________________ If it doesn't feel good, don't do it twice. www.eadv.net Boomer Queen of Shoes
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#94081 - 11/02/06 08:28 PM Re: Angry people [Re: ]
Anonymous Unregistered	Dianne, when did the anger begin? What was the initial cause? I wonder if her enjoying being a b**** is b/c the anger is a barrier to her vulnerabilities? I've felt that way.
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#94082 - 11/02/06 08:48 PM Re: Angry people [Re: ]
Sadie Member Registered: 10/08/04 Posts: 1274 Loc: MD	I thought angry people were very unhappy people and they have a pinched look on there faces . My mother's cousin looks that way a nasty angry look all the time . What makes unhappy people , I am not sure . Life does not go the way it should for them or in my case my mother's cousin I found out of jealous of me. Too Bad ! I say . Any other ideas , I gave my thoughts on this . Renee _________________________ Courage is very important Like a muscle, it is strengthened by use .
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