Dotsie. You're a giver. I'm a giver too. You like to do things yourself. It's hard to accept the help of someone else, and it's frustrating being so helpless.

Hang in there. Ross is an angel for being patient and understanding and helping you in your time of need. That's what a marriage is all about. Sometimes you're the giver. Sometimes he is. Just don't keep score. Not a good way to grow a successful marriage.

As for treating him. Does he have any hobbies? Maybe you can give him a "day off" to go play or indulge. Does he like to golf? Maybe a gift certificate at his favorite golf store. Does he have his eye on something he's been wanting for a long time?

I guess that's enough suggestions. heehee. Sometimes I can go a bit overboard.

Enjoy your downtime and get rest. It's what you need to heal.