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#88895 - 09/20/06 09:43 AM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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If I was a man of God, I absolutely would want to be married to someone like me. I believe it is essential to have a spouse who has a sacrificial love for all. Someone who is prayerful, faithful, honest, forgiving, merciful, humble and giving. I try, with God's help, to be that every day, not only for my husband but for all those around me. I always fall short but each morning, I give it another shot. I wish I could say the same about him...
Edited by Bluebird (09/20/06 09:50 AM)
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#88896 - 09/20/06 01:33 PM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: Bluebird]
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Registered: 01/06/03
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Loc: Tampa, FL
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What an interesting question. I've been married three times and with my first husband, I wouldn't have wanted to be married to me. I was a wreck. I had no self esteem, I was beaten down, emotionally battered and I didn't fight back, not until the very end.
My second marriage was a mistake from the day I said "yes". My maid of honor tried to talk me out of the wedding, but I felt obligated after all the plans we made. It wasn't a great way to start a marriage. And, I take responsibility for getting myself into that situation and getting myself out. So, I wouldn't want to have been married to me then.
Now. My last marriage (um, my current one?) Anyway, this marriage, I'm a totally different person. I'm strong, emotionally and mentally. I love my husband desparately. He's my sun, moon, and stars. But, I wasn't always so strong. We worked at it. He helped me build up my self esteem. It's a true working relationship. He gives me the confidence to disagree with him some times when we're discussing certain subjects. He was there when I was diagnosed with Bipolar and he stood by me during all the medication challenges. I wasn't always the most happiest person during that time. I didn't make a very good spouse. So, I guess I'm talking myself out of being married to me in the beginning, but now? Yes, I think I make a great spouse. I'm giving, caring, appreciative, supporting, tolerant and loving.
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#88899 - 09/20/06 03:30 PM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: Anno]
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Registered: 06/23/06
Posts: 3703
Loc: London UK
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Not really. It will be much too boring to go through life in constant agreement with a replica of myself because I may not be right all the time and the decisions I make may, at times, not be sound ones because it would only consider unilateral positions. There are however a few of what I value most that I would like the other to be an exact image of me which would be faith in God, honesty and unconditional love. Those would be non-negotiables.
Edited by Lola (09/20/06 03:45 PM)
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#88900 - 09/20/06 04:56 PM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: Lola]
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Registered: 02/24/04
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Loc: Nevada
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I suppose if a I were a man (oh NO) and liked easy going, loved laughter, neatness, intelligence, super work ethic, admired true commitment, help in whatever he does with no lies or deceit and what-you-see is what-you-get, an unselfish dedication to help animals, children and the elderly, then yes, I would love being married to me..
Edited by chatty lady (09/20/06 04:59 PM)
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#88901 - 09/21/06 11:26 AM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 08/16/06
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No. I mean, I think I"m a good spouse, and I know I'm an easy-going person, non-judgmental, supportive, and able to balance a checkbook on the first try. However, what makes our marriage work is that we complement each other. He has far more drive and ambition (if we leaned on MY ambition, we'd fall into the soup!), he's more self-disciplined. On the other hand, I'm probably more understanding, and I definitely have dealt better with the kids over the years.
I believe he's more affectionate than I am, which is certainly an attraction for me. I tend to be reserved and he loosens me up. So, I'd say, I'm glad HE likes being married to me, but I wouldn't attract me at all!
Viva la diference!
Edited by dejavu (09/21/06 11:28 AM)
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#88903 - 09/21/06 10:46 PM
Re: Would you want to be married to "you"?
[Re: TVC15]
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Registered: 03/22/05
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Loc: Canada
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Dejavu & TVC, you both said what I wanted to say much better than I did!
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