cathy what a hard prediciment, either by the strenth of your own emotions and fears over lossing your Dtr in all this or by the presure of the young couple and the SiL mum all pushing and pulling in diffrent ways and directions. A hugh risk your gonna be bullied in one direction or another by anyone of them. Also if that wasen't enough then trying to be accountable to your husband so he dosent end up cross with you, it must be making your head spinn.

Weren't you originally gonna have two showers but your DTR wanted it an all in one affair? So you gave way to her and Also agreed to host it(instead of her aunt in law) to keep her happy? Maybee she had an inkling that this attitude from the MIL to be might of surfaced, who knows.
Theres a lot of toing and frowing to keep everyone happy and in the end their still not happy, you poor love you must be exosted....

Iv been reading on and off at this post waitng to see how it all turned out....iv been praying for a happy ending or comprimise for you all that their be some way for you to get throw it with a lot less stress and demands.

I sorry too read how you are feeling in your last post that you whish it over, theirs no joy left in it, and you can't at the minuet see the two families blending.

This situasion is nearly carbon copy of my sis situasion even down to nationalities ( do you think their a diffrence in 1st and 2nd generasion Itaions? My dad always said so)

In the long run the two families managed to smothed the rough edjes off each other their always was tension over christnings, birthdays etc but it got easier with time.

I hope with a bit more time rest and less stress you can generate a more poitive view over the getting on with the outlaws sorry inlaws lol.....you got a lotta love for your DTR and one things always gonna be, simpley your her mother and always will be now and in fifty years from now........

keep strong, keep god and i hope the tide for your cituasion and in your hart changies to a ligter one...by the sounds of you my dear lady it will surly turn

love celtic_flame