Hey Ladies-

Here's an update on the wedding. I went today with my dtr for her to be measured and ordered the dress. Let me tell you this was NOT an inexpensive dress!!! UGH!! I just can't believe how expensive weddings are today.
Anyways - things went well with us. We talked about a few things for the wedding, got the dress ordered and we are communicating well.
My future SIL has not shown his face with our family since that dreaded night a couple months now. My sis is coming in from CA tomorrow and we are having a family gathering. I wonder if he will show. AND I wonder how hubby will act if he does. I KNOW hubby is very uncomfortable now. Life is so unsettled right now.
My dtr and I talked a little about a shower. I must be very old fashioned.....she wants to know who is doing it, wants control over when it is, because she has a busy schedule, told me that she and her bridesmaids will be here to put the favors together, etc, etc etc...I never heard of the bride being so involved in the shower. In my mind, she should be surprised. Should not have ANY control of it.
ALSO - she wants one big shower. NOW - remember the mother-in-law? I told dear dtr that I should NOT be throwing the shower - that it is not proper etiquette. But, if an aunt has it, there are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people on the grooms side, that we would have to have 2 showers. I sound like I am rambling.
Here is the scoup on the shower. My SisInLaw wants to have a shower. Would probably be our side only and small. Daughter does not want the family's split, so wants to have one big shower at a hall. I cannot tell my SIL that she has to have it a hall. I cannot tell people they need to spend money. Dtr tells me that his mom can get this wonderful deal on this hall - like $20/per person. I am thinking that is not all that great. Then I am thinking, why do we have to have ALL these people??? I really don't know what to do about this shower biz now. Any thoughts on what you would do? Is this clear as mud???

Thanks Ladies-