My hubby wants to be buried, and I want to be cremated. So I think we'll get just one plot, bury him with 1/2 my ashes, then I want the rest of my ashes spread out on a nice warm beach somewhere. Is it bad if my ashes are split up? I'd hate for my soul to be lost somewhere...

I don't want to be buried because I can't stand the thought of my body lying in a box forever. And the thought of just putting it in the ground, unembalmed, sounds horrible to me. I guess I just don't like the thought of the bugs and worms and .... well, you get the picture.

I've been to more funerals than I care to think about in the past five years. Most of them have had some kind of video during the memorial ceremony. They actually were quite well done, and with the right images, can inject some humorous light into the proceedings and helps you remember the fun stuff you may have done with the deceased. They only lasted 10 minutes or so, so it wasn't too much.

And my last thought is - I think the funeral industry is a horrible racket, preying on the distraught relatives at a really bad time. When my dad died last year, my mome ended up spending $7,000 for a casket!! For a lovely box that we all saw for a total of about one hour, and now it will be buried forever.

Now I know it was her money and that's what she wanted to do, but to me it's a total ripoff and a huge waste of money and resources. Am I tacky to think that?

Okay, off my grandstand - it's someone else's turn...
Kathy