I clicked right on this morning to see if I got any replies.
That is exactly what I'm afraid of Kathy…when my Mom is gone I want to avoid a guilt trip in addition to sorrow. On the other hand Dotsie suggested a time plan that I might just focus on: your suggestion sounds like a good balance. Those were my thoughts, and it was good to hear a confirmation. At this point it's almost every day…and I guess that is the stress between hubby and me. I always thought so many families have their old parents live with them, and they have them every day…but I should take advantage of the fact that she lives in a " self management" (don't know what's it's called in English) home for the elderly. And ah, last but not least Chatty lady brings it down to the point. Yeah, but I refuse to be damned…(Hmpf) so I'm trying to find a happy solution. Thank you Kathy, Dotsie and Chatty lady.