It seems as our parents age, we feel like we need to spend more and more time with them since any time could be our last.

My father-in-law is a spry 84 year old carpenter, and travels between all five of his kids homes doing handyman work and visiting. He's a great guy and I do love him.

He has a tendency to pop in without calling, and it seems his timing is frequently bad - I'm usually working on a deadline for a client when he stops by. At first I was irritated, and then I realized the guy just needed some company (everyone else was at work - I was at home, so I must not be working...).

I've become much more patient and I just stop what I'm doing and visit. The client can't see that I'm taking a break for an hour or so, and what's more important in the big picture - getting their logo sample to them immediately, or spending an hour with this wonderful man?

Hannelore, you have to decide how much is too much or too little. I think when she's gone, you'll realize there may not have been a "too much" and wish you had more time with her.

Where are your husband's parents? Maybe he doesn't have a close relationship with them and so he doesn't understand your need to be with your mom. Explain it to him, and then try to have some time with her, and also some private time with your hubby so he doesn't feel left out.

What does that leave you? No private time for yourself! It is tiring, isn't it? Maybe you can make your work lunch hour a special time for yourself - stop working and actually go out to a nice place to eat, or take a walk, or sit on a park bench and watch the birds. Maybe that will be enough to get you through this time.

Geez, I sure rambled, didn't I? Hope some of this helps...
Kathy