I have decided that I am a triumphant survivor. Or at least I am striving to be one. I read Ann Kaiser Stearns book called Coming Back. She talks about how there are three kinds of survivors. One person remains broken by their grief, one goes through the grieving process and returns to the way they were before. The third kind of survivor becomes stronger after coming through the process of grieving. She said that people who reach out to others and join groups or seek help are members of the third group. She didn't mention forums but I am sure if she had thought of it she would have have included them in her third group too.