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#81269 - 05/29/06 05:22 AM
Relocation
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Registered: 10/03/05
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Loc: New York
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Need to get some feedback on those who've made a move to another state either to join children or just to relocate to enter a 55+ community. I need honesty on how you really feel about the move, particularly if it was a radical change, which would include leaving friends and family members behind. Do you like your new environment? Have you any regrets? Did you have a difficult time making the decision? How was the adjustment period? And woould you do it again if you could go back in time?
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#81272 - 06/18/06 04:23 AM
Re: Relocation
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Registered: 10/03/05
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Loc: New York
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I waited and kept checking back but no one had answered so I stayed away. Thanks to both of you for repsonding. I'm glad I didn't give up. I like this site and look to it for support with my many issues. We still can't make a decision, so we just sit and think. As time doesn't stand still, why are we? Well, there's reasons to go and reasons to stay. Maybe someday we'll just make up our minds and do it for ourselves.
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#81274 - 06/18/06 01:07 PM
Re: Relocation
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Registered: 06/07/05
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Loc: Michigan
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We relocated five years ago - but not for retirement. DH and I took a job transfer after both the kids had flown the nest.
It was truly an adventure. We met great people and had a great time. But, when it was time to retire - we came back home. We still had family - kids, parents and extended relatives - and felt that that was were we should be.
We have just moved into a detached condo on a golf course. We plan on travelling this winter (getting out of the snow belt.)
It's hard to be away from loved ones. You always think that everyone will visit - but the truth is that if you want to see them - you pack up and go to them. We had a wonderful home in the south that we wanted our friends and family to enjoy. But, outside of sending our kids airline tickets - we were alone. Only one couple that we have been friends with since high school days made the trip.
We couldn't fly back for every holiday and so we spent most of them alone. I do think it made our marriage stronger - because we only had each other - but if your marriage isn't on solid ground to begin with, I think it could be a disaster.
For us, this will be 'home' for now. In time, if the kids move out of state, my parents are both gone, MIL is 80 and still independent but for how long?? There still might be one more move left in us - to a place with warmer winters. But, for now, we'll just hunker down here, follow the sun when we've had too much snow.
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#81278 - 06/25/06 04:00 AM
Re: Relocation
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We do want to make a change, but where we were thinking of heading is not where we belong I realize. Probably, even though the timing wasn't right, we would've been working towards that destination all along. The reasons for staying remain the same, but the reasons for going have now changed. Trying to fit it won't work. We thought we'd go to where our other son and his family are. Our only grandchildren are there. But we no longer feel welcome. We were kidding ourselves, or maybe we knew it all along. What move we make will now be only for ourselves, if we move at all.
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