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#80399 - 01/30/06 09:23 PM Old habits die hard
MossPatch Member Registered: 11/23/05 Posts: 71 Loc: Midwest	I left my ex six years ago. I've been in my house for 4 years and a few months. Just now I was reheating a cup of tea and realized that I was hunched over, elbows tight against my ribs, tense. It's taken me this long to realize that the microwave in my own house is positioned exactly like the one in my former house, kitty-corner, and I was standing the same way I always used to and felt the same as I always used to -- trapped and so very small. Dang these trigger moments.
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#80400 - 01/31/06 12:34 AM Re: Old habits die hard
Sadie Member Registered: 10/08/04 Posts: 1274 Loc: MD	MossPatch, How would it feel if you took a chance and just moved everything around in your kitchen on day. I am on the move of moving things all the time . I don't know how many times I have moved the microwave around and then decided where I have it now next to the fridge on the counter suits well. Make a new day of it. Just some thoughts on the matter.
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#80401 - 01/31/06 02:01 AM Re: Old habits die hard
chatty lady Writer Registered: 02/24/04 Posts: 20267 Loc: Nevada	Renee makes great sense. Move that sucker somewhere else, move everything....Old habits die hard but they DO DIE if you allow it....
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#80402 - 01/31/06 01:22 PM Re: Old habits die hard
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	Moss, you are samrt to recognize the triggers. It's time to re-arrange the kitchen...
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#80403 - 02/01/06 03:52 AM Re: Old habits die hard
MossPatch Member Registered: 11/23/05 Posts: 71 Loc: Midwest	Thank you, all. I may be a slow learner, but when the aha! moment arrives, I move fast. I cleared a space in the pantry last night and the microwave's out of the kitchen. It is amazing how a small change makes such a bit difference! Came down the stairs this morning and realized I was now looking at the whole [albeit messy] kitchen in the morning sunshine, not just that blasted microwave. thanks again.
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#80404 - 02/01/06 03:57 AM Re: Old habits die hard
TVC15 Member Registered: 09/03/04 Posts: 2538 Loc: North Carolina	Wow, you are so smart to have realized that. I'm going to go through my own house to see if there are things that may be triggers for me.
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#80405 - 01/31/06 04:02 PM Re: Old habits die hard
Sadie Member Registered: 10/08/04 Posts: 1274 Loc: MD	Mosspatch , You got girl . One step today and who knows about what tomorrow will bring . I started getting rid of things that I don't use anymore and donate to the hospital sale and use that as a tax write off . I get rid of old books and old glassware , etc. Some days clean all day long . Just don't know what I am going to get into .
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#80406 - 02/01/06 02:14 PM Re: Old habits die hard
Dianne Queen of Shoes Registered: 05/24/04 Posts: 6123 Loc: Arizona	Ah, the Soulful Voice is talking to you and healing you. How wonderful that you are open to listening.
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#80407 - 02/02/06 01:50 AM Re: Old habits die hard
MossPatch Member Registered: 11/23/05 Posts: 71 Loc: Midwest	Thank you all, again.
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#80408 - 02/02/06 09:26 PM Re: Old habits die hard
starting over Member Registered: 06/30/05 Posts: 383 Loc: Illinois	It's frustratingly amazing isn't it, what things will trigger us? The microwave hasn't bothered me yet, but I did have to completely rearrange the bedroom, living room and closet. Every time the phone rings I tense up and I have to remind myself he doesn't have this number. Sometimes smells will overwhelm me with negative memories too. We can't really control smells but it's so frustrating that we seem to not be able to control the thoughts/emotions when the triggers occur. I hate that at 49 I can be reduced to a shaking mass in under 7 seconds...
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