"His reply Lynnie, was that she must have enjoyed it, as she didn't try leaving home." We all know how appalling this is. We all know that victims are threatened with their lives, or the lives of their mothers, others, siblings, whomever, if they tell, leave, scream, etc. And this: "But i couldn't see why that was an unreasonable thing to want to do in her situation." That is certainly a strong dose of compassion and understanding. I learned this from my counseling when I was "bouncing back" from that suicide attempt: "I believe every one ever born enters this world from a place of absolute love." I had never heard that concept before because I had grown up Catholic, which instilled in me the notion that we were all born sinners. I took things very literally. It was a revelation to have my Mormon therapist tell me that we are born to love and be loved!