Searcher,

I realize now that I'm not thinking rationally. I'm depressed and stressedd and thinking with my heart instead of my head. (a great failing of mine!)

Today I opened a separate checking account and told my daughter I want her to start contributing her income to the household also. She makes more than I do!! But she has court fees, payments to her probation officers (2) now and fines and two classes she has to take.

I don't see an end anytime soon to any of this, but today I'm taking my grandaughter to see the manatees and the sun is shining..

Thank you all for your great suggestions and for caring.