Number5, I'm so sorry to even say this but someone has to. This is an evil selfish man to make a mother have to decide between him and her child and grandchild. Then when not getting his way he sells your home right out from under you and is going to keep all the proceeds, dear Lady if he gave you the entire $35,000. it wouldn't be compensation enough for the years you've taken care of his needs. He all but ignores you for the friendship of his booze buddies, he is giving away furniture you might need or be able to sell and he is "allowing" you to set up his apartment for him, one you probably won't be welcome in when it is all set up and after all this and probably alot more you haven't told us, you're still planning to go to his doctors appointment with him, WHY??? You state you cringe at what the MRI results might be because then he'll be looking at you to care for him. My God women wake up, smell the coffee...I am so glad you are taking the excellent advice given above to open your own account and have all your monies deposited into it immediately. I hate to see any women go through this and know what pain and confusion it causes but you have to be aware that he is using you and yes, abusing you. Maybe not psycially but emotionally and spiritually it is definitely abuse. You must think of yourself now, if that includes your daughter and your granddaugher than so be it, that is the choice you were forced to make...There comes a time when being smart and mindful of your own needs is necessary and that time is now for you. I wish you well and pray you use your head and good common sense and not your wounded heart and spirit to make decisions.. If it were me I'd contact the landlord to make certain this loser actually paid three months rent in advance for you. We are all here to help as much as we can. If I may say this, you need to back away leave this user husband to fend for himself the way he is leaving you....

[ February 16, 2006, 06:25 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]