Number5...is it your husband that works for the post ofc?
Was thinking...yes...if so he will be receiving retirement there, besides the military retirement, and pretty much free medical...if he was unable to get financing because of his credit, it shows he is not responsible in the finance dept..
My husband is retired military, (he is not collecting disability from combat etc.) his retirement pays our mortgage, insurance plus elec. With other income we are able to max invest in 401, and still support a family of 6.
Not to mention... your husband is collecting extra pay for combat wounded veteran.
He has no savings because he choose not to save...why should he? It's not in his heart to share what he has earned...with anyone.
You have believed to many of his stories...I believe his nose is growing beyond his reach.
Don't be the rug...he walks on.
You need to believe you are a good person.
Decide, what you put into the account and transfer it into a new account in your name (does your paycheck not go into that account?)
...before your family has to go without.
Do you think if he beats you to the bank, it'll matter if you have anything left to eat or live with...or is he just waiting for you to beg, for the morsels that fall from his table?