I too lived with the "you're not good enough" comments. About me were bad enough... but being held up to my brothers and sisters as an example they should attain was even worse. I cringed every time I heard my father tell one of my sisters, "why can't you get good grades like Vicki." That hurt even more. Even in my young mind, I knew the damage that my father was inflicting on my siblings and I hurt deeply for them.