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Originally posted by Dianne:
How powerful that a child is responsible for all the problems in the family. I took the burden on my shoulders where it was placed. I could, single handed, ruin a marriage or destroy my sister.
I was told from a very early age not to bother my Dad with my problems, because I might give him a heart attack. OMG, imagine the overwhelming burden on the shoulders of a young child, that she could kill her own Dad merely by saying something wrong. And how does a growing child know what words will be the ones to cause the heart attack?! The result was that I rarely ever spoke to my Dad, terrified of saying the one wrong thing that would kill him. For me, all those lost and wasted years are still the saddest loss of all.