Yes, Dianne, it is all relative, and if we are talking about normal, normal is on a continuum of society’s expectations. My goodness, why couldn’t your father embrace you rather than try to keep you in your place? What place was that? The place where HE did not feel threatened by your presence? I’m glad you were able to move through their self-serving concepts of you to determine who you are to your own self. Being grateful for your self is important, as is self-love. Thank goodness you are able to experience that!