The suggestion of a private investigator was also advised. I would be interested in the voice activated tape recorder. If there is a web site you are aware of, it would be appreciated. I too want to believe him. It just is impossible with everything that he has said as well as all the different behaviors.
He won't leave when I tell him to and I keep staying. It is a rut.
Thanks for your input. I am so grateful to have a place to just ask questions and state feeings to others who have gone through the same thing. I know it has to be my decision and when I'm ready. There are days when I feel it is the right decision to stay regardless of his behaviors and other days when I'm on ready to proceed with the divorce. I don't know how to get out of this rut.