Donkeys2, My ex did not ever admit to his affair. I was beside myself because I truly wanted to believe him, but IT was just there between us. We went to counseling and he just lied to her also. One time I happened to visit her alone and she suggested I hire a private investigator. I didn't, but I did put a voice-activated tape recorder in a flower basket (much less expensive) in my kitchen and the very first day I had the proof I needed to move on with my life. Maybe you need to get that proof - it's easy to get.

I wish you the best and hope you will be able to get out of limbo. It's a terrible feeling.

Daisygirl