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#71404 - 07/19/07 02:02 PM
Re: Hi Bonnie 3...
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Registered: 06/19/06
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Loc: Chicago suburbs
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I'm sure hormones are not helping. I made the decision not to do HRT...my beloved mother died of brain cancer, so I won't even consider it. I have heard about bio identical but mixed reviews. Maybe, just maybe I could remember to take my vitamins...hmmm what a concept
Thanks for the support. I have never been told I am wise, that really helps to hear. I'm smiling now...I remember asking my mom why I had what I thought were alot of problems. Her answer to me was that I getter older and had more history to weed thru. Bless her, I miss her everyday (even though I allowed her to help create some of my challenges (I just deleted the word "mess")
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#71405 - 07/19/07 02:37 PM
Re: Hi Bonnie 3...
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Da Queen
Registered: 07/02/03
Posts: 12025
Loc: Alabama
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But take heart at this. We ALL have messes. Naturally, our own situations seem worse than other people's and sometimes, they even seem hopeless. They're not!
To me that's the time when I step away from whatever it is that's bothering me and do something totally different. If it is work, I go take a walk and get outside. The fresh air and walk clears the cobwebs of anxiety that have built a nest in my old brain.
If its someONE who is disturbing my peace, I try to figure out why and if I can correct it. If it is something within my power to do, I move forward with it. If I cannot "fix" it or make it better, I leave it. Right there on the spot.
And the best solution of all is I come here to my sistahs....they love me for who I am, do not judge me, and encourage and guide me, gently.
And wise? Yes, you are wise. You gave yourself time to step away from all the post and digest everything that was offered. When I read that I said to myself, "Good for her! How smart is that?"
You gave your mind, soul, and your heart time to think about it all and chose what works for you, and what doesn't. I call that wise, ANY day!
Onward!
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#71406 - 07/19/07 05:11 PM
Re: Hi Bonnie 3...
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Registered: 06/19/06
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Loc: Chicago suburbs
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Thanks so much...:) I am trying to learn to be less impulsive, step back and let it "marinate".
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#71409 - 07/20/07 09:55 AM
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Registered: 02/17/05
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Loc: New York State
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K, Even if boyfriend's kids were nice to your face that doesn't mean they'd be nice behind your back. I saw a very dear friend destroyed by 2-faced, back-stabbing stepchildren. Just a warning. Watch your back if you decide to continue the relationship. My friend had money, a house, a car, wisdom and health. Now she struggles to just make it through one day at a time. This isn't to scare you. It is simply to say, "Be Alert!" bonnie rose
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#71410 - 07/20/07 12:19 PM
Re: Nice, isn't always nice...
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Registered: 06/19/06
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Loc: Chicago suburbs
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I am concerned....If they are anything like their mother, I'm in trouble and the BF knows it. The NO man thing many times sounds appealing, but I am not ready to make that move. My biggest fear is myself. Firstly, I think honestly I am not trusting myself. As I said before, I suffer from depression and consquentially am afraid of it. It freezes me. I am sure many can relate. Praying is something I should focus on. Ihave a god/high power problem though. Having sustained so much loss and suffering in my life I have a hard time buying it. I'm working on all this.
Thanks for the support, I need it.
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#71412 - 07/20/07 02:26 PM
Re: Nice, isn't always nice...
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Registered: 05/24/04
Posts: 6123
Loc: Arizona
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I've been through this nightmare so I'll ask you to ask yourself some questions. It wasn't until I did this myself that I finally broke through.
Do you feel a little bit fearful? I did and had to ask myself what was making me feel that way. That his sons wouldn't like or approve of me? They already didn't so what was I losing? That he might leave me because of his sons? No way that would happen. I carried a lot more power in the relationship than I realized.
These girls SHOULD NOT be allowed to tattle on you. I'd put my foot down about that right now. If he cares about you he needs to tell them that isn't allowed anymore. It's like feeding the fire. And, if he doesn't get it and tells you something they've said, stop him right away and tell him you aren't interested.
I had to tell my husband..."You're either for me or against me so you need to decide which one it is."
It's tough. Boy, do I know that!!!!!
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