My reaction to her when she calls me these names or is rude and disrespectful is to lash out unfortunatly. I dont like doing it. But my thinking at THAT time is.... She treating me like an adult would, so do what an adult would. LAST time she was nasty was when I asked her to sit at the table and eat her dinner. She got mouthy saying why should she dinners cooked in the kitchen and if SHE wants to eat it out there standing up, then She will. I slapped her round the face. I have no idea why she is doing it to me. I dont want to have a slanging match with her every damn day of the year, she'd love that. And all this is done in front of my 2 small children of 8 and 5. I hate her for making me do what I am doing. As for custody, him and his ex didnt go to the courts to have them decide. They did it between them. And the only reason she hasnt got them full time and us just weekends is he cant afford it. Over here the fathers have to pay for their childrens keep with their mother. As in most other countries I presume as well. And even if we could afford it she wouldnt have them to be honest. They have always got in the way of her plans. Except the other child she had in the 2nd marriage.