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#70795 - 06/14/06 10:12 PM
Re: I'm in love
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Maybe you could ask him what it is he's looking for or what he expects from a relationship. Just be honest, it is always the best way to go.
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#70796 - 06/15/06 12:11 AM
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Mustang, I caused this man some grief by not returning his phone call and appearing to be uninterested. Two weeks ago I got angry at him inappropriately and it was very upsetting to him. I think he needs to know I care and that I am doing everything I can to grow past my limitations. My counselor believes I need to let him know that much.
Bluebird, One thing I know is that he would expect his friends to return his phonecalls. I will ask him that question - that's an important one.
Let me tell you, this will be very hard, because my normal MO would be to well.....move on and not deal with it. One thing - I cannot pretend to be happy and carefree when I'm not. He sees right through me and sometimes surprises me by what he knows without me saying a word about it.
I appreciate you ladies so much. This has been a very difficult time and knowing you care means a lot.
Daisygirl
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#70797 - 06/15/06 12:45 AM
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Daisygirl, thanks for clarifying -- I did not read the thread in its entirety! Perhaps you could explain and then offer to take him to dinner or a movie or both?
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#70798 - 06/15/06 12:53 AM
Re: I'm in love
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Mustang, I think I'm going to make a grilled chicken salad for dinner and hopefully he will stay. Here's a link to a great article re love from the cloudtownsend site in case anyone would like to read it. There are other topics like family, dating, depression, and faith issues. They are a well-known Christian counseling organization and have a radio program. Their books and philosophy is all Bible based. http://www.cloudtownsend.com/Articles/7articles8.htm Daisygirl [ June 14, 2006, 05:56 PM: Message edited by: Daisygirl ]
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#70799 - 06/15/06 03:19 AM
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Update: I did talk to him and I am okay with the results. He was not very open with me, but I can't blame him for that, I would be leary also. We "like" each other and will continue to date and if that doesn't work out, we will be friends.
Daisygirl
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#70802 - 06/15/06 07:06 AM
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The thing is, I feel so much better. After a bad relationship years ago, I became distant from God. This relationship with P caused me to look at how self-centered I've been always protecting myself. I know God forgives me and I am praying I will have a chance to ask others from my past to forgive me.
I found a box of letters I received through the years from friends and acquaintances (sp?) appreciating my friendship and the love they received from me. But they were all from years ago, because I became a closed up person, with walls all around me. I haven't received any letters or cards like that in years. I really want to go back to being me. With God's help, it can happen!
Daisygirl [ June 15, 2006, 12:09 AM: Message edited by: Daisygirl ]
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#70804 - 06/15/06 11:10 PM
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Thank you Chatty! Today I do feel loved - and it's so nice.
JJ, I'm very glad you have someone like that in your life.
I've been single a long time and now realize I have probably been repelling the good guys away. Although, you know there are very few good ones out there at our age.
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