Dotsie, I also trust that way of meeting a man and it should be a good safe way to meet one but thats how I met the church man, through good friends who said they knew him well. Apparently he had them and everyone else fooled about his behavior, me too until I let him into my home....

Daisygirl it boggles the mind how no one seems to be forthcoming about what they are really about or looking for in a relationship. You're right we do need a Private Detective.