I think that's why I'm not doing the cyber dating thing anymore. I was engaged to a guy I had known for 1 year - someone I met here in my town - and broke up with him because he finally confessed he had some additional children. And they were toddlers!!!! He lied to me for an entire year - AND neglected his poor children all that time!!!

Yes, it's okay to meet someone that way, but just remember that trust is something to be earned!!!

I haven't been in the dating scene for years. Just want you to know I enjoy reading about those of you who are.

Ah yes..cyber dating...another rung in the ladder of our most technology driven society. lol I have dabbled in cyber dating off and on for several years with no credible success. I think the funniest experience I had was going out with a guy I really thought could be a great match. He was an editor with a local newspaper and I have always been interested in writing and newspaper work, so I thought..this could be good. We spoke and emailed and all that and finally went to dinner. Now, I will say this...he had a picture posted and it was okay..not terrific, but I thought he would pass muster. So he came to my door and when I opened the door, I really thought I had a date with a troll. He was short, had large yellow teeth and smoked more than I do...AND left the windows UP in the car while chain smoking. It was certainly NOT a match made in cyberland heaven. We went to dinner in a dark place and made tolerable conversation for about an hour and then I had to choke when he expected a good night kiss. arghhhhhhhhhhhhh. In retrospect, I should have seen a red flag when he told me his ex-wife had come from Russia and he married her so she could keep her green card or whatever it's called.

Just thought I'd share that story...I know success stories with cyber dating, but I'm afraid I haven't attained that success as of yet.

Irishmom46, sorry for that experience you had and welcome to this forum, didn't see you up above in the Welcome posts....you might want to pop in and introduce yourself....Funny and sad all at the same time. Amazing how these men think you aren't ever going to find out they are trolls, isn't it??????????DAH!

Hi Chatty and thank you for the welcome. I did post this morning on the Hi I'm New page. I am new to forum posting, but have done email chat lists in the past. As I said in my morning post, this is a great site. It is easy to navigate and I love the way the forums are categorized. Thanks for you efforts.

Jeneane

Irish, welcome. I love your name. My maiden name is McNamara! My dad was the leader of the band.



Do you think your date posted a picutre of someone else? Do people ever do that?

This reminds me of my son who creates films. He is great at using his editing system. He takes our pictures and distorts them, puts other bodies, or faces on them. It's hysterical. We have a picture of my husband and I all dressed up for this black tie affair. He added weight to me and gave my husband a huge forehead among other distortions. We have had more laughs from that simple picture. It is so funny. We look awful, but we keep it there because it's a riot.

I wonder if people make themselves look better for those dating sites. Would anyone know if they did that?

Okay, most of the guys who "wink" are creepy! Yet, I do find it amusing! Thus, I've not winked back! My neighbor tried to fix me up with her boyfriend's friend. Yet, he is the same age as my mother, so I told the neighbor thank you, yet I do not feel comfortable dating someone who is 60 where I'm 39. She said "I thought you were older." Geez! Will look for the "Solo Bliss" book next time in the bookstore!

My newest book will be titled WEAVING THE WEB. Its a story of 4 women friends who begin surfing the web and the men they meet. The lies and deceptions and it is a murder mystery with a really huge twist....Ya'll be careful out there ya'hea???

[ October 05, 2005, 10:02 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]

Oh Chatty, hurry up and finish it so I can read it!

I've given up the "cyber dating" venue. Yeah, I've had quite a bit of experience with it, unfortunately. I live in a small town, teach middle school, don't go out to bars (yuck!), and am generally a stay-at-home type, rather shy of getting out and mingling. The men I've met thru the Internet singles' sites have been generally deceptive on various levels. I liken it to throwing a hook into the ocean and pulling out who knows what kind of monster! And, well, like Chatty, I could also write a book, only it would NOT be fiction! For now, and maybe permanently, I prefer solo bliss!
Ari