It's not been that long ago that I was in the dating world. Actually I loved it. I had a great time. I dated a few losers and like Diana, one stalker who almost drove me crazy.
But for the most part I liked the men I met. I almost married a couple, but for some reason when given time to think it over, I just couldn't. Then I met my husband and married him immediately. So far there are no regrets.

I think all guys love and need the chase. It's a primal instinct and actually causes the secretion of beneficial hormones. And just as men need to chase, women need to be chased. Now that I am married, I try to keep a little of myself not quite caught so my husband still has to chase me. It's our way of flirting.

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For you single gals here I want to give you some information that I learned after hours and hours of exploring the mind of men who could turn out to be losers.

BEWARE OF THE MAN BEARING GIFTS ON THE FIRST DATE!

I'm serious about this. While we might think it's romantic or nice for the guy to show up with flowers, perfume or a bottle of wine, it's really a warning sign. He wants you to look at the gift and not at him. He's hiding behind the gift. Dating is about getting to know someone, not buying them off with gifts. Good relationships take time and if a man wants a whirlwind relationship, run as fast as you can.

Don't compromise for any man or woman for that matter!

jawjaw,

O lemme lemme do it - I want to do the questionaire !!!! And, yes, Dotsie can be chair because I want to be chief whiner.

Now, let's see, we have job, teeth, residents of the local police station, jammies, girlfriends, boyfriends,driver's license, and men buddies, that's a good start.....

Okay, so if I post a potential date's postings and the sites he's posted at, would you gals be willing to "check him out" for me!

i.e.:

wera453 posting at true.com and date.com

Okay JJ, I'll bite:
I'm thinking I should elaborate on daisygirl's questionaire a little. Here's my comments to her questions.

Are you an available man? (covers married, engaged, in a relationship?)
First question for an online guy might be "ARE you a man? I mean online you might not be able to tell (Unless you have chatty on duty of course) Then you have to clarify "available." Like available for what? I mean some might be available for an affair or a roll in the hay or... Well, you get the picture.

Are you a believer?
Better ask in what? There's a lot of stuff guys believe in, like beer, football, one night stands, Hooters restaurants, strippers--well you get the picture.

Do you have teeth - for sure!
Better ask if they are in their head and if they stay there all night. If the teeth sleep in a glass, it can be a problem.

Would you mind sleeping with a dog?
Now that one is just waaay too wide open. It could mean 1. YOU are a dog, 2. You have a dog 3. You sleep with a dog 4. And of course all the crude jokes in between. Oh that one is way too full of trouble.

Do you like kids? Do you have any?
Now that might be a good one. Of course it might also reveal no end of problems.

Are you able to trust people?
Hmmm. Trust people with what? Sounds like one of those financial scams, you know "Trust me, you'll love this ocean front property in Arizona."

Have you ever hit a woman?
Now there's a good one. It might also be revealing to know if they've ever been hit by a woman and why.

Do you think there is ever a time when it's okay to lie? When?
Now that's really a good one, but if the guy says he would "never" lie dump him. I mean if I've got a new pair of jeans and I ask if they make me look fat, he better have enough sense to LIE.

Have you ever been arrested?
Now that one's a great one. Of course if he's a criminal, he's probably a liar too so he would never tell you he had been arrested.

Have you ever done any sort of illegal drugs?
Oh boy, another good one. Of course he might be prone to lie. And you might want to know what 'medicines' he takes too. Some of that 'medicine' stuff can be very revealing.

How often do you have a cocktail or beer?
Ah ha! Another good one. Very specific.

Are you addicted to sports, food, work, exercise, alcohol, drugs, sex, church, etc.?
Boy that about covers it all. Of course based on some of the other topics on here, I guess you could add internet, porn, etc.

Are you adventurous and passionate about life?
Good question, but how does he know?

Is that your real hair? (I prefer bald to fake)
Very good question. I agree! I guess it could be hair implants though. I'm not sure if I like those or not. Don't know if I know anyone with them.

Do you have a job? Do you make more than minimum wage?
Oh boy is that ever a good one. Excellent.

Do you keep your house in good condition?
Maybe it would be good to know if he will keep your house in good condition too. It's always nice to have a real handy guy around.

Do you bathe and change your undies daily?
Oh my gosh. Boy is that ever a good one. Very personal though. Some guys might not know they are supposed to change undies daily.

Do you like your mother? (like, not love)
Another good one. I think it's okay for them to love their mother, but not be 'in love' with the old girl.

Do you smoke?
Another good one. I kind of hate smokers worse than drinkers. At least the alcohol doesn't cause your hair to smell bad.

Do you have a healthy relationship with your adult children and are they self sufficient?
Boy another good question. You don't want to date the whole family for heaven's sake.

Do you know how to use a mitre saw?
Oh yeaaaah! That's my kind of man. I like those helpful types. I'm all for it. Of course they all think they are handy. You might want to administer some kind of test. You know like remodeling your kitchen or something.

Are you over your last relationship?
I'm too tired to even elaborate on that. By now the guy might be in a coma.

Do you like R & B and blues?
Now that might be a little picky, but...

Do you like to travel?
Okay, that's a good one.

Are you willing to give foot massages?
Boy that ranks right up there with the mitre saw. Essential. Of course foot massages don't last remodel jobs do.

Boy that was a lot of questions. Not to be negative or anything, but if I was a guy, I might be too exhausted to date. Then you add JJ's multiple choice. Shucks, I might just stay home and watch football.
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I think JJ left a question out: Do you believe Elvis is still alive?

Ah, well-L, ye-ah...I mean, what kind of question is that? Yell-o? Isn't that a given? Everyyyyyybody knows he's alive and living in Arizona. Don't you ever eat at Burger Kings?

Okay, I think we have a good start for this questionaire, and SMILES did help to clear up a few things, but I for one want to see the mitre saw thing stay in, k? Also, it wouldn't hurt to find out if he can do plumbing... NO, not that kind...geeish, you women! The kind you need worked on in your bathrooms/kitchens. Just ask them how many Lowe's or Home Depots are located in their town. If they don't know, dump um.

I think the "do you lie" may be redundant anyway. I mean, you ask, "do you breathe?" and if they answer "yes" there you go...see? (This is fun...)

I think we should ask them at least ONCE if they've ever sat thru the entire movie, "Gone With the Wind." If the answer is no, dump um...

JJ

Other movies would include

Ghost
Dirty Dancing
Dance with Me
Pretty Woman
Shall We Dance
An Affair to Remember
Sleepless in Seattle

Whew...and that's just for starters...

JJ

Well, now that I'm a handy woman I just CANNOT have an un-handy man in my life! I refuse to clean the clogged up commode while he sits on his arse. See,I am a very optimistic "desperate woman" and that's why I already have my honey-do list made up. I'm pretty handy, but there are some things even I won't do. He should be able to plumb, wire, make furniture, garden, cook, support me and last but certainly not least, be handy in the sack.

Hi, Mustang,
I took a peek at the fella whose ID you specified.
It all sounds and looks good except the "relationship status" question, which he left unspecified. What does that mean? It should have stated, divorced, single, separated, married, etc. You need to know that, huh!
ARI